countingstarsagain Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I've been broken up with my boyfriend of 3.5 years for about a month and a half now. I continually have negative dreams about him. Some of them are just him betraying me in random ways. But last night, and this is for the second time, I had a dream that we are standing on an extremely high porch (from which a fall could be fatal) is extremely drunk and naked from the waist down. I tell him to put some pants on, he goes inside and does so, comes back out. Starts dancing around. Stops. Says "I'm gonna jump off" and jumps. I run down the stairs. He's still alive, but laying in a pool of blood. I wrap him up in a blanket and call 911. This is when I wake up. Without knowing the definate outcome of the dream. Can anyone interpret this? Does anyone else have scary dreams like this about their ex? I've been NC for 10 days and I'm dying to text or call him just to make sure he's alive. But I know I shouldn't. He's already seeing someone else and would likely not answer. I'm just really freaked out. My heart's beating out of my chest and I'm fighing back tears. HELP PLEASE!
rickigal Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I'm so glad you posted this. Reminded me of a dream that I had the other night about my ex. He invited me over and I was so happy. I showed up and this girl was there with her daughter. He says "I just wanted to introduce you to my new girlfriend. She's awesome." Then he asks me to leave. I was crushed, you know that sunken heart feeling of desperation and pain. I wouldn't leave, I started calling him and her names. He called me names back. I woke up and felt like it was real all day.
Author countingstarsagain Posted November 29, 2009 Author Posted November 29, 2009 I'm freaking out about this. The dream seemed so real. I feel like I'm not going to be able to do anything today until I am sure he is okay. Should I contact someone in his family and ask them if he is ok or should I block my number and call and see if he answers? I just want to know that he's okay, I am actually afraid of actually speaking to him, or really even hearing his voice. I feel like I'm making progress, but today feels like it's going to be my downfall. Should I stick to no contact no matter what??
EricaH329 Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Dreams can leave you with a sense of unrealistic urgency. For example, your situation. I have been broken up with my ex for just about 3 months now, and I still have dreams of him. I wake up feeling as though they were so real. Most of them are nightmares, some of them are just sad. But... in reality, all they are are dreams. That's all. I'm sure if something was really wrong with him, you would have heard about it by now. I remember all of my dreams, unfortunatly. And the most vivid ones are the ones that leave you feeling helpless. I honestly believe that the things you decide not to face or deal with while awake, will show up in your dreams. I believe that all dreams mean something. Definitely beyond the surface though. Just because you had a dream of him seriously hurting himself, doesn't mean he is seriously hurt. For example, it may just mean that he had a destructive and careless attitude about certain things, and you felt like you were the one who had to always rush to his side, to make sure everything was alright. Your dreams can mean many things, and if you were to sit down and write them all out, in detail to the best of your ability... you can most definitely figure out what's bothering you and how to start dealing with that issue.
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