starscollide Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 won't be next to you, you know I won't be near. I'd just be curious to know if you can see yourself as clear As someone who has had you on his mind. Curious as to what everyone else interprets this as...lets say an ex put it up as his facebook status, and this particular person usually uses lyrics to express themselves...however, he has a girlfriend. If needed, I can give more details I just don't understand why my ex puts up things like this when he's with someone else. He used to send me lyrics all the time after we broke up because he couldn't express how he was feeling. And yes, I know its about me. & yes, I still have feelings for him as well. He also sent "Dead Flowers" by Rolling Stones & "Hands on the Wheel" by Willie Nelson yet...he's never been ready for a serious, committed relationship. =/
Island Girl Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I'm curious as to why you are consistently checking your exes' page trying to see hidden messages meant just for you when the two of you are over and he has a girlfriend. That isn't exactly a recipe for moving on and this kind of stuff can drive you insane. He has moved on. He has another in his life. You should do the same. Your happiness is elsewhere. Trust that if he had something to say - he'd say it directly. And you don't want him saying anything while he has a girlfriend. You are not a side dish you are the main course. You deserve all of someone's attention and affection - and you do not need some guy using these "lyrics" and crap to try to yank your chain or mess with your head. Move on.
Author starscollide Posted November 29, 2009 Author Posted November 29, 2009 I'm curious as to why you are consistently checking your exes' page trying to see hidden messages meant just for you when the two of you are over and he has a girlfriend. That isn't exactly a recipe for moving on and this kind of stuff can drive you insane. He has moved on. He has another in his life. You should do the same. Your happiness is elsewhere. Trust that if he had something to say - he'd say it directly. And you don't want him saying anything while he has a girlfriend. You are not a side dish you are the main course. You deserve all of someone's attention and affection - and you do not need some guy using these "lyrics" and crap to try to yank your chain or mess with your head. Move on. Here's where it gets complicated. His best friend recently confided in me that my ex never got over me either, he just isn't ready for the same kind of relationship I am. And his girlfriend now is more of a "I'm dating her for now" and not a "I want to marry her" relationship. Its a long, long saga that has been the last 5 years of my life. We've both dated other people, yet neither of us has ever stopped having feelings for the other. & he uses lyrics because my ex has years of emotional baggage...he's never been able to say anything directly.
Island Girl Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Here's where it gets complicated. His best friend recently confided in me that my ex never got over me either, he just isn't ready for the same kind of relationship I am. And his girlfriend now is more of a "I'm dating her for now" and not a "I want to marry her" relationship. Its a long, long saga that has been the last 5 years of my life. We've both dated other people, yet neither of us has ever stopped having feelings for the other. & he uses lyrics because my ex has years of emotional baggage...he's never been able to say anything directly. Not complicated. He has a girlfriend. No matter the dynamics of their relationship. He still HAS a relationship going. You will always be involved with him as long as you involve yourself with him. The friend should have been stopped at sharing details of your exes relationship with you. That would have been the prudent and appropriate thing. And your ex should have a very clear message that if he should not concern himself in any way with you unless he is free to do so. -- Meaning he is not involved with anyone - nor are you. Either you both get single and hash this crap out or you are with other people and need to cut the contact and move on. If you still have always had feelings for each other then when aren't you together working it out? Something broke you guys up and it has kept the two of you apart as well. It is not worth dwelling on in any way unless you are open and FREE to get back together. THAT is the message you need to be sending - and absolutely CLEARLY. This mess has been going on for 5 years?? Look down the road - another 5 years like this - and another and another You are missing your life behind unhealthy emotional crap.
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