Taucher Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 So, I havent contacted her since Sep 6th. I bumped into her 2 weeks ago, she looked sad when I just walked away after a bit of chit chat. However, my expensive mountain bike is still at her parents house and for various reasons I am still paying her phone bill (I own the contract for her mobile phone). I reminded her about these a couple of months ago but it was ignored by her. Now, tonight, out the blue, she emails me saying she feels bad about owing me money for the phone and saying that my bike is still in her parents' garage and would I like to pick it up. What has made her email about these things now? Why has it made me feel so rubbish? I was moving on and everythinng. Anyone there? I cant move on. Sigh. T
floods88 Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 it sounds as though she might be wanting to check up on you... see how far along you are with "moving on". after you bumped into each other, she may have had her ego bruised when you walked away? i could be very wrong though, she could just want to give you your stuff back. have you replied? are you going to?
Author Taucher Posted November 29, 2009 Author Posted November 29, 2009 Yes, I am going to reply cos she owes me about £150 from 4 months of phone bills and really I need to have my bike back from her parents. But I will reply tomorrow. It just annoyed me that in her email she said that she "just remembered" that I own her mobile contract. Thats bo**ocks as she must realise that she been using her phone without paying for it. Thing is, her contacting me seems so natural, so when the phone and bike are sorted she will have no reason to contact me. But I have a feeling she will anyway. T
leap83 Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Taucher, I'll tell you from an unselfish female perspective. I don't know your ex or what kind of person she is, but if I were your ex and you received an e-mail like that, it would probably be because I'm trying to check up on you/miss you/would like to hear you. I can't speak for your ex though. Just from why I would do it.
floods88 Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Thing is, her contacting me seems so natural, so when the phone and bike are sorted she will have no reason to contact me. But I have a feeling she will anyway. T i am betting that she will find some reason to contact you again. i did the exchanging of stuff last week and he still found a reason to try and speak to me. unless its what you want to hear (i miss you, im sorry, please take me back etc), just ignore it. because it will be so detrimental to you if she talks to you just to make herself feel better.
Odyssey Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 ...so when the phone and bike are sorted she will have no reason to contact me. But I have a feeling she will anyway.I guess you still want to hold on? Taucher, don't read to much into her email man... most likely its nothing.
mickleb Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Ah. This is the reason you're up late. Yeah, don't read in too much. She may have thought you were moody with her because she hadn't sorted the stuff out. Don't correct her assumption, or anything. Cos you don't know and what you don't know won't harm yer, etc. Sorry it's more stuff on your plate, though. x
Author Taucher Posted November 29, 2009 Author Posted November 29, 2009 Taucher, I'll tell you from an unselfish female perspective. I don't know your ex or what kind of person she is, but if I were your ex and you received an e-mail like that, it would probably be because I'm trying to check up on you/miss you/would like to hear you. I can't speak for your ex though. Just from why I would do it. Thank you. Maybe you are right. I just wish she wouldn't. I guess you still want to hold on? Taucher, don't read to much into her email man... most likely its nothing. You are prob right though, it is sub conscious though, but maybe I do still want to hold on. I think it is sub conscious though, as I hate hearing from her at the same time. Ah. This is the reason you're up late. Yeah, don't read in too much. She may have thought you were moody with her because she hadn't sorted the stuff out. Don't correct her assumption, or anything. Cos you don't know and what you don't know won't harm yer, etc. Sorry it's more stuff on your plate, though. x I dont want to even try and second guess her assumptions. But unforunately I have to respond though, as I need to get this tuff sorted. And I will prob have to go to her parents' house next week to pick up my bike. And that will be sad as he parent;s house used to have happy memories for me. Ignorance IS bliss though. I wish I knew less about everything. T
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Why dont you get your bike back??? I mean it is yours right? And you need to stop paying for that phone, that way you'll really move on when you stop being connected to her. It sounds cruel but why prolong the pain?
Author Taucher Posted November 29, 2009 Author Posted November 29, 2009 Why dont you get your bike back??? I mean it is yours right? And you need to stop paying for that phone, that way you'll really move on when you stop being connected to her. It sounds cruel but why prolong the pain? Exactly, you are right. I never got these things sorted as I guarded my NC very closely and could not bring myself to contact her about these things. But now she has contacted me I can get it sorted. A hollow victory for me, surely? I maintained NC AND get these final issues sorted. T
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Exactly, you are right. I never got these things sorted as I guarded my NC very closely and could not bring myself to contact her about these things. But now she has contacted me I can get it sorted. A hollow victory for me, surely? I maintained NC AND get these final issues sorted. T Well get your crap, then cut her off and end it for good. then you can remain NC and move on. I mean why procrasinate?
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