NopeNah Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 So my ex called wanting to meet up the other night. I was bored and agreed to meet for drinks. She had just been dropped off from dinner by her "now" BF. So, I arrive at the pub after her and she tells me she wants me back. During their dinner she couldn't wait to leave and call/see me. This is now the 3rd or 4th time since our breakup that this has happened, with me ending it the last time. I told her I thought she'd be better off taking some time to herself and really know this time what she wants. She tends to make knee jerk, emotional decisions on a whim recently. Anyways..she had a few to many so I drove her home. On the way she starts crying because she's going to end it with him. I drop her and head home only to get a call 10 min later asking for me to come over so, me being a dumbass away I go. She had ended it with him via phone. He started calling and texting after I arrived. I just told her to handle her buisness that I was going home. So that was wensday, and here I set today trying to decide what exactly to do. I've told her we both need time to figure out exactly what we want and she agrees,for now. My head says NO but, my half-broken says yes.. I was doing sooo good alone. Dating many women some nice,some crazy as hell but, all beautiful women! I just don't know what the hell to do?
DustySaltus Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Ask yourself this: Is the pain of never being with her again greater than the pain of going through another breakup down the line? If you have to think about the question, it's probably best to let go. However, if you really feel she is the one you want to be with she's go to prove herself to you, on YOUR terms. I would take everything very slowly. I mean the guy dropped her off... Take your time to see what YOU want...but remember she will eventually move on if you take too long. It's a delicate balance.
Author NopeNah Posted November 28, 2009 Author Posted November 28, 2009 I hear ya! I do want to "think" we could have a future together but, only if she's in it 100%. Not like the other half hearted attempts she "made" over the past few months. The kicker is she would leave this guy for me and then bounce right back to him every time. That's why I told her she needed some time alone to clear her head and think straight. She's not been alone in about 6 years now. I don't know.. I've also got a date tonight with a new girl so, maybe she'll be "perfect" and make my decision easier..haha
hopesndreams Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 The new girl is far better than the ex. So, let me get this straight. She cheats on you and now she is cheating with you on some other guy. The same guy she left you for? And your ok with this and think that you both can, what, start over? How has she changed? Like you say, she needs to be on her own for a bit to sort herself out and it also gives you time to figure out if she is worth it.
DustySaltus Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 I hear ya! I do want to "think" we could have a future together but, only if she's in it 100%. Not like the other half hearted attempts she "made" over the past few months. The kicker is she would leave this guy for me and then bounce right back to him every time. That's why I told her she needed some time alone to clear her head and think straight. She's not been alone in about 6 years now. I don't know.. I've also got a date tonight with a new girl so, maybe she'll be "perfect" and make my decision easier..haha Wait, so your EX is a "serial monogamist" and has been jumping back and forth between you and this guy (haven't read your past I apologize)? This changes the scenario a lot. She has to work her *** off man. You can't keep playing this game. Good luck with this girl tonight, just take that slow as well.
Author NopeNah Posted November 28, 2009 Author Posted November 28, 2009 Wait, so your EX is a "serial monogamist" and has been jumping back and forth between you and this guy (haven't read your past I apologize)? This changes the scenario a lot. She has to work her *** off man. You can't keep playing this game. Good luck with this girl tonight, just take that slow as well. Yep..that's the story. I will admit I had a lot to do with her leaving. I actually moved out from our home to straighten my life out last year. We still "dated" but, I did in a sense leave her first. I do understand why she did what she did and that's no excusing the way she handled it all. So, guess I'll continue to do my thing and see what's what. Thanks guys/gals!
almostpassedit Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 i feel sorry for you freidn. your girlfriend is damaged. she has to many cocks inside her. go nc or suffer.
Author NopeNah Posted November 28, 2009 Author Posted November 28, 2009 The new girl is far better than the ex. So, let me get this straight. She cheats on you and now she is cheating with you on some other guy. The same guy she left you for? And your ok with this and think that you both can, what, start over? How has she changed? Like you say, she needs to be on her own for a bit to sort herself out and it also gives you time to figure out if she is worth it. Lol.. I only had drinks and a talk with her. Nothing else. I actually felt really bad for the other guy when he kept calling, only to be ignored, so I left. She's agreed that she needs ome time to fix herself and "get back to the person she was when we first met"..she also asked me if id "wait for her"..that I didn't agree to. I simply told her I just wantt us both to be happy either together or apart in the future. I never thought I would have the strength to do/say some of the things I have the past couple days. Its amaizing how much I've grown over the past several months. I also know in my head that this could end with her going back to him at anytime so, she's got to prove that to me by staying solo for a while and working on her issues.
Author NopeNah Posted November 28, 2009 Author Posted November 28, 2009 i feel sorry for you freidn. your girlfriend is damaged. she has to many cocks inside her. go nc or suffer. Haha...very good point!
hopesndreams Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Lol.. I only had drinks and a talk with her. lol, and your point being?
Author NopeNah Posted November 28, 2009 Author Posted November 28, 2009 Lol.. I only had drinks and a talk with her. lol, and your point being? touche
almostpassedit Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 it looks like your getting a ego boast from all of this. and i must tell you, when the tables turn and they will it won't be so funny. In addition why would you want a female that treats her boyfriend like how she's treating him, aka immediately dumping him while the new one is in the room, not even a 1 day grace period. thats just her mentaility toward men, keep the old one, get a new one, put the old one on the bench, don't tell him you have a new one because if it doesn't work out, you can go back to the old one. she can't stand on her own, in the future when something terrible happens, she won't be able to hold the fort down. she's not a solid foundation, i can't blame females like this, they are just females. weak minded though.
Author NopeNah Posted November 29, 2009 Author Posted November 29, 2009 I won't lie it is some what of an ego boost. Its also very emotionaly draining. Every thing was smooth sailing for the past couple months and now its back to the insanity..I'm leaning towards going back to NC at this point. It does help to type it out and get all the feedback.
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