thetadrea Posted December 15, 2003 Posted December 15, 2003 Me and my ex were together for about 8 months last year and broke up last December around this time. Over the past year, I have had a new long term boyfriend (which didnt work out, and we broke up in september) and have since gone to college and really grown up a lot. I think originally me and him broke up because of the age difference, he is 22 and I am 19 now, but then I was a senior in high school and he was a sophmore in college, so it was a big change, not really in years but where we were in stages in our lives. Recently we have been emailing back and forth ( we hadn't talked for almost a year) and I am coming home from college on Christmas break and I said that it would be good to see him when I came home. He immediately wrote back and I was practically leaping for joy when he said he would love to see me and asked what date I wanted to get together. How should I go about this? Where should we go/what should we do when we see each other because we haven't seen each other or even talked on the phone in a year! I just don't want this to be awkward, and I am kind of hoping maybe we could rekindle our relationship (but thats thinking way ahead). Anyways, I really like him and miss him, I just want this to be as natural as possible and I don't know how to go about it. Where should we go when we see each other? Movie? Dinner? Bowling? I don't know. What should I talk about/ what topics should I avoid? I want to kiss him! Would that be bad the first time I see him? HELP! Thank you!
dyermaker Posted December 15, 2003 Posted December 15, 2003 Treat it as if you're just old friends, but keep yourself "out there". As for things to avoid, steer it away from what either of you did romantically while you were apart. It sounds like he's interested in you again, and if you want to keep it natural, naturally respond to his interests.
ASDFJKL Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 I think you need to think a little more on if you would like to rekindle your relationship with him. Could it be because you're on the rebound from the relationship you just got out of? If I am wrong...think of the reasons you two broke up in the first place. Realize that the problems still could occur if you guys started over again, because it has only been a year since you guys broke up, and although it seems like a long time, it might not have been quite enough to grow and change in good ways. I would suggest you have a very low-key "get together" with him. Nothing that seems too date-like or fancy. Just go out to dinner at a casual restaurant, where you can sit and talk. Then, you'll know what to do from there.
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