dashing daisy Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 All he said was "you there?" I didn't respond, he didn't say anything else. Kind of glad I wasn't actually there or I probably would have responded, as much as I like to think I wouldn't. If he really wanted to say something he would, right? This doesn't mean anything? He seemed perfectly able to write down all his thoughts about how we should break up in an email when we hadn't been able to talk before. He's not actually trying to say anything. He doesn't actually care? I'm majorly f-ing up NC. Once again, I'm thinking about him constantly. He's coming back in a day. No more 14 hour time difference. I thought I was sort of over him, but now I think I was just in denial since I knew he was out of the country and nothing was possible. Now I have this ridiculous hope that he will call me when he gets back. I miss him.
alphamale Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 I miss him. maybe you two can hook up tomorrow nite and have sex
PinkToes Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Hey, I'm really sorry. That's got to hurt! But you didn't respond, so you haven't messed up the NC. Just keep taking it a day at a time, and take care of yourself. (((hugs)))
the_b Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Hi Daisy, I've taken the time to read all your posts about you and your ex. The things you say/feel and the type of stuff that has happened is similar to what I went through earlier this year - so big hugs to you x I wouldn't reply to the text to be honest. This type of "ghost" texting is pretty lame. It's done to spark your interest, to get you thinking about him (and obviously it works) - it's also called stringing you along. If he broke up with you and said he doesn't want to be with you or at least try to make it work, then he should have the decency and respect to let you go and heal. This type of text serves you no good at all - it's all done to make HIM feel better, to stroke HIS ego, to get HIM through a lonely patch or whatever. If he really wanted to try work things out, he'd call you or at least send you a message which is explicit in his feelings towards you (and I know this is what you crave, and me too from my ex aswell ). How about re-framing his actions - would you really want to be with someone who can't even accept their own decisions? Someone who doesn't acknowledge that you have feelings too and that his actions might hurt you? Someone who is acting selfish towards a person that he knows loves (or even likes) him? Stick to your core self Daisy - you seem a kind, genuine, smart, hassle-free type girl. This guy is making you feel like YOU are/or have the problem. Man, that guy must be an idiot x
Author dashing daisy Posted November 29, 2009 Author Posted November 29, 2009 I've taken the time to read all your posts about you and your ex. The things you say/feel and the type of stuff that has happened is similar to what I went through earlier this year - so big hugs to you xThanks for that. I'm sorry you have been through this, hugs to you too. If he really wanted to try work things out, he'd call you or at least send you a message which is explicit in his feelings towards you (and I know this is what you crave, and me too from my ex aswell ). I know this, in my head. I think if he really wanted to be with me, or if he really loved me, he would be certain about making an effort. He has told me his feelings about me which just makes me confused. I feel like if he was just straight forward, "I don't want to be with you", this might be easier. Instead, he says "I still love you, I wish I had never broken up with you, I wish we were still together..." and I don't know how to feel about that. He says all these things, but then he says he knows he can't take it back, he can't expect anything from me, it would be selfish of him to think I could forgive him and take him back. It just sounds like BS to me. If he wanted to be with me, he would at least try, right? Stick to your core self Daisy - you seem a kind, genuine, smart, hassle-free type girl. This guy is making you feel like YOU are/or have the problem. Man, that guy must be an idiot xThank you that is really nice. I used to think I was some of those things, but now I feel like I've gone insane. Over this guy I knew for 6 months! That makes me feel crazy. Yeah, this makes me feel like there is something wrong with me.
PinkToes Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I feel like if he was just straight forward, "I don't want to be with you", this might be easier. Instead, he says "I still love you, I wish I had never broken up with you, I wish we were still together..." and I don't know how to feel about that. He says all these things, but then he says he knows he can't take it back, he can't expect anything from me, it would be selfish of him to think I could forgive him and take him back. It just sounds like BS to me. If he wanted to be with me, he would at least try, right? Wow. This is exactly what's been going on for me. Or at least it was for awhile. It's pretty lame. And it definitely messes with your head.
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