SushiOji Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I know everyone gives advice that NC should not be broken, yet even the strong willed do it. I just want to know if anyone ever feels better after breaking NC. Sometimes I feel like the emotions build up and just checking up on them helps to release some of the tension inside your heart. I don't know, I just know it was pretty hard not texting her a simple Happy Thanksgiving yesterday and I guess that after you do NC after a number of days the anxiety just builds and I don't seem to feel any better.
threebyfate Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 NC is the cold turkey method of breaking an "in love" addiction. Does cold turkey work for everyone, in every situation? Nope. Breaking NC isn't the ultimate evil in this world. In many ways, it's like a cold splash of reality, where you realize that after you break NC, there was a reason why you wanted to go NC in the first place and that's to move on.
GrayClouds Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 It is like playing Russian roulette, but with 5 bullets and one empty chamber. You may feel good afterwords but likely it is because you just not feeling a whole lot worst.
DenverBachelor Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I feel like I'm repeating myself with the same story, but I texted my ex to wish her and her family a great thanksgiving and it helped me tremendously. She wrote me back in three minutes with a heartfelt response telling me that I made her cry. It makes me feel better about everything and moving forward because I know she's a good person. That's the warmest she's been towards me since the breakup. I didn't expect a response -- much less one within three minutes where she admits to me making her cry from my text. But I initiated NC and told her no contact. So I had to be the one to poke a hole in the wall. Whether the wall ever comes down .... well ... who knows. The Berlin wall was up for decades. You need to do what you feel is best. But I wouldn't break NC any sooner than a month after the breakup. It takes time for hearts to mend, minds to expand and souls to fly.
DenverBachelor Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 It is like playing Russian roulette, but with 5 bullets and one empty chamber. You may feel good afterwords but likely it is because you just not feeling a whole lot worst. To bad there were 6 in the chamber while she was breaking up with me
PinkToes Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 It can feel better -- it did for me after a number of months -- but it's a huge risk. You have to cover all the possible answers (or non-answers) in your head, and be prepared for every single one of them. The difficult part when you're still hurting is getting caught up in what you want or expect to happen. Sometimes it's better to not know.
GrayClouds Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 To bad there were 6 in the chamber while she was breaking up with me At least you were out of your misery quickly or did she put you on life support?
DenverBachelor Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 At least you were out of your misery quickly or did she put you on life support? She shot once and that's when I grabbed the gun, pointed it at my foot and shot 5 more times. Then she grabbed the gun back and complained about the wasted bullets.
GrayClouds Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 She shot once and that's when I grabbed the gun, pointed it at my foot and shot 5 more times. Then she grabbed the gun back and complained about the wasted bullets. So your the guy my ex cheated on me with, damn I am going to miss that gun.
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