b52s Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I got to talking to a male friend of mine.....we got to talking about dating and how some women can be overly picky. And he laughs and goes, "I don't see you chasing any fat chicks" Just because I don't chase fat chicks, makes me picky? LOL Especially since I'm thin? I guess he was joking, but I'm surprised he didn't agree with me on that note, and made that remark. He says, "I see thin guys dating fat chicks all the time". I said, "Okay, guess you saw that 'patch' that was in that sample" That being said, am I being "too picky" because I won't date overweight women?
Ross PK Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 No, not at all. You're only being picky if you eliminate most women.
Bejita463 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 No, not at all. You're only being picky if you eliminate most women. Refusing to date someone who is overweight eliminates around 60% of the population in America. So it is a pretty good start. So technically speaking, he is being picky due to that preference alone. I'm not saying it is wrong, but it is what it is. Weight enters into physical attraction for almost everyone. The question is less if it does, but to what degree does it.
RedDevil66 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I claim to be no shallow, yet I would never date an overweight (I hate the word fat) guy. I take very good care of my body so would want the guy to do the same. Having said this, my sister is overweight and the reason she cannot find a man is because of that. And she is drop dead beautiful, with a great job and a lot going on.
Bejita463 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Having said this, my sister is overweight and the reason she cannot find a man is because of that. And she is drop dead beautiful, with a great job and a lot going on. I don't mean this to sound snide, and I apologize in advance if it comes across that way. Being attractive in the face is small solace for a potential mate if the person is unattractive in the everything else. It is almost worse when you can see someone has the potential to be attractive, but is not.
pricillia Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 being with someone is more than just looks it is a feeling as well, with that said no one wants someone that does not take care of themselves that is a given... however attractive people come in all shapes and sizes.
Ross PK Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 (edited) Refusing to date someone who is overweight eliminates around 60% of the population in America. So it is a pretty good start. So technically speaking, he is being picky due to that preference alone. I'm not saying it is wrong, but it is what it is. Weight enters into physical attraction for almost everyone. The question is less if it does, but to what degree does it. Well I suppose I ment most women as in a lot more than 60%, I mean 60% still leaves you with 40% which is still a lot right? Also, I think the OP probably doesn't like women who are quite overweight or more. A decent amount of the 60% are only going to be a little overwieght, which the OP might not mind. Edited November 27, 2009 by Ross PK
Stockalone Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Just because I don't chase fat chicks, makes me picky? I'd say your friend is right, it does make you picky. But everyone is picky. I don't think there is even one person who has no minimum requirements. That being said, am I being "too picky" because I won't date overweight women? If it makes you "too picky", I don't know. I don't think so, people are allowed to like whatever they want. However, you said that you consider some women to be overly picky. I guess it's only fair then, that some people would consider you to be too picky too, based on your requirements.
sally4sara Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Not dating over weight people doesn't mean you're picky. Making too many threads about dating standards and other similarly themed subjects might indicate you're obsessed with defining the parameters of the term "picky".
RedDevil66 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I don't mean this to sound snide, and I apologize in advance if it comes across that way. Being attractive in the face is small solace for a potential mate if the person is unattractive in the everything else. It is almost worse when you can see someone has the potential to be attractive, but is not. I understand that, but if a guy is a wonderful soul with potential but is not active and weighs 300 lbs, I won't be attracted to him I certainly am not only interested in the physical, and have an interest in those with depth and a kind spirit, but I need to be attracted to that person to have a romantic interest.
Stockalone Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I understand that, but if a guy is a wonderful soul with potential but is not active and weighs 300 lbs, I won't be attracted to him I certainly am not only interested in the physical, and have an interest in those with depth and a kind spirit, but I need to be attracted to that person to have a romantic interest. I think he was saying the same thing you did. What he probably meant is that it is kind of funny that you called your sister drop dead beautiful when she can't find a man because of her weight. For the same reason you wouldn't be attracted to the 300 lbs guy, men apparently aren't attracted to your sister because she is overweight. I don't think they consider her beautiful then. I am not saying your sister weighs 300lbs or anything, but the idea behind it is the same. Once you weigh too much for the person you encounter, basically nothing else will change that. If you are too fat in their opinion, they won't be physically attracted to you.
jerseyboy Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I understand that, but if a guy is a wonderful soul with potential but is not active and weighs 300 lbs, I won't be attracted to him I certainly am not only interested in the physical, and have an interest in those with depth and a kind spirit, but I need to be attracted to that person to have a romantic interest. How overweight is she?
Bejita463 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I understand that, but if a guy is a wonderful soul with potential but is not active and weighs 300 lbs, I won't be attracted to him I certainly am not only interested in the physical, and have an interest in those with depth and a kind spirit, but I need to be attracted to that person to have a romantic interest. I think we're on the same page of similar books written by different authors here.
DenvyH22 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 It's your own preference, nothing wrong with that. And, it doesn't make you a bad person, it just means you're not physically attracted to women who are overweight.
PinkToes Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 It's a preference, nothing wrong with that. The only way it might become a problem later on is if you're in a long-term relationship with someone who gains weight. May not be your first choice, but would it be a deal-breaker? I think that's the issue you might want to think about, if you're at all concerned.
whimsical_memory Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I don't think that there is anything wrong with you not wanting to date over-weight women. Not everyone is going to find the exact same type person to be attractive! Heck, how many times do you hear a guy talk about being turned down for a date simply because he's not tall?
motive2002 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 I don't think that there is anything wrong with you not wanting to date over-weight women. Not everyone is going to find the exact same type person to be attractive! Heck, how many times do you hear a guy talk about being turned down for a date simply because he's not tall? Beat me to it, however fat people can lose weight. Short people will never get any taller no matter what they do I'm 5'8" and have been rejected due to my height before. Everyone is allowed their preferences and allowed to be picky.
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