muse08 Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Several people seem to disagree with females dating more than one guy at a time and actually being honest about it. Funny thing is, my guess is that the majority of men out here date more than one woman w/out being forthcoming about it, causing a whole bunch of drama and mistrust in women. We women have options and some guys act like they don't realize that... WOMEN HAVE OPTIONS TOO, lol. The average person DOES have options. The key is to exercise self-control so that you're not abusing the fact that you have options...that's where the problem presents itself and it's REALLY SAD. So much hypocracy in this isue that it makes no sense. And to get even deeper, some people really need not even get married because it doesn't seem to stop with dating for many men...In today's society this wanton-gratification makes people forget what love is and they exercise no self-control whatsoever. With all the dishonesty, mistrust, and lack of self control is loyalty becoming extinct?
D-Lish Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 I'll multi-date, but I won't multi-****. I might be sleeping with one person and dating others- but I would never sleep with more than one person at a time. The one person I am having a party in my pants with is always the person I want to be with.
muse08 Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 ...and to be clear about my post. I DO NOT agree with anyone regularly having sex with more than more person while dating...
jerseyboy Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 Several people seem to disagree with females dating more than one guy at a time and actually being honest about it. Funny thing is, my guess is that the majority of men out here date more than one woman w/out being forthcoming about it, causing a whole bunch of drama and mistrust in women. We women have options and some guys act like they don't realize that... WOMEN HAVE OPTIONS TOO, lol. The average person DOES have options. The key is to exercise self-control so that you're not abusing the fact that you have options...that's where the problem presents itself and it's REALLY SAD. So much hypocracy in this isue that it makes no sense. And to get even deeper, some people really need not even get married because it doesn't seem to stop with dating for many men...In today's society this wanton-gratification makes people forget what love is and they exercise no self-control whatsoever. With all the dishonesty, mistrust, and lack of self control is loyalty becoming extinct? I don't think most people are saying that at all Rather they are simply saying "not on my time."
sally4sara Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 I'll multi-date, but I won't multi-****. I might be sleeping with one person and dating others- but I would never sleep with more than one person at a time. The one person I am having a party in my pants with is always the person I want to be with. I would sleep with others in a perfect world if I found a desire to sleep with more than one. I don't think of sex in terms of too many, too often, too much or wrong in anyway for any reason concerning morals. I think of it more in terms of hurt feelings, high risks to a healthy lifestyle, and situational dishonesty that our egos drag into a perfectly normal activity that makes having multi sex partners a problem. That is why there is no perfect world. Part of being a responsible adult is attending to your own physical health and interest. I found a conflict of interest in multi-fornicating because it hinders my sense of honesty and makes it difficult to attend to my physical health. If I would have had multi sex partners and caught an STD, I wouldn't know who I caught it from or who I might have given it to without a bunch of drama. Even more drama if you end up pregnant in that situation! And say you do start sleeping with one guy and then another......if the first one asks if you've been sleeping with others you might feel compelled to lie because of your ego and damaging his ego. If you've found him winning enough to sleep with, you might, in selfish interest, fear telling him something that could end the situation you've been enjoying. I quickly found it necessary to go exclusive once I decided to have sex with someone I was dating. If I've gotten to where I not only want to have sex AND also think I should have sex with someone - the others I might be dating are not really being given a fair chance and I'd just be wasting their time, my time, and the time of the guy I found awesome enough to have sex with.
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