angelface78 Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 (edited) Well he moved in w her. Today on Thanksgiving of all days. I text messaged his sis saying Happy Thanksgiving. She text back "same to you" after a couple minutes she sent another text and said 'my brother moved out hun" I asked "with her?" she said "yes ..he picked up all his clothes and left" I guess i knew this was coming. His rebound is a 20 year old girl w no parents here (they are in Mexico) and she has a 2 year old son. She lives w her sister but then got her own place. His sis had told me that he was always at her house everyday and sometimes would not come home. She said last week his dad was a lil too drunk and was arguing w him and kicked him out of the house so ofcourse he left to her place. His dad apparently asked for forgiveness and asked him to come home but he said no and now he has moved in w her. I dont know how to feel. I was w him 5 years and we never moved in. We were engaged the last 6 months of our relationship. It has now been 5 months since the breakup and he has been w her maybe 4 months and now he is living w her and her son. Apparently he has been helping her pay rent. His sister said before he moved in he was helping her pay rent and she was cooking for him everyday lunch and dinner and he would go eat at her place after work everyday. Now he has moved in. I expected to start crying but i feel numb. I guess i already saw this coming. Its just so weird how we spent 5 years together never moved in and now hes been w her 4 months and is now living w her. I know that w her its easier for him in a way. She has no expectations of him. She doesnt need the engagement or the wedding. Her priorities are finding a father figure for her son and a man to help her pay her bills since she makes very little money. She works at a water park. He always asked me to move in and i always said no i want a wedding and not just to move in. After 4 years he finally proposed. Well i guess some things are not meant to be and there is a reason why this has happened. I feel ok. I dont even feel sad. I just feel numb. Life is so weird. Just in June we were together talking about our wedding for December (next month). Its like youre in a 5 year relationship and engaged one day and the next youre living w another woman and her son. Its all so surreal. I know im going to be ok. He just wasnt the one. I cant help but feel like i wasted 5 years of my life though. Any thoughts LS friends???? Edited November 27, 2009 by angelface78
bluestraps Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Yes, it sucks. You still may find you will get depressed. Did you believe you may have been able to get back togther ? If so you may become sad again.I just had a simmilar situation. My ex girlfriend left me for a friend, 9 weeks ago. And she moved in with the mental midget and his dumb Mother the first week. For you, you were engaged. what a stab in the back. Yes I guess the love was not there. People are not to be trusted sometimes.I feel like I wasted 10 years ! You have every right to feel that way Its scarry to think of the future, I would give anything for it to be the way it was Once the move in hits , all hope seems lost because you now think its nice and cozy and now there spending more time togther and sharing things , especialy around the hollidays. Actualy it might be a good thing for us. When you dont see all the little things your partner does because you live apart it may take longer to find all their faults whereas when living togther you see it all. So maybe things for him may not be so great after a while. I always thought its not a good idea to move in together too fast.Hope you had a good Thanksgiving anyway. I suprised, I didnt think about my ex too much today. She probably was with my backstabbing friend at her brothers house eating the bird
Kaya Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Life is weird! and it's crazy how it can change in an instant. Bottom-line, it is unpredictable, and so are people it seems. If they change and decide to choose a different path to the one we want them to follow, we can't do anything about it. It doesn't mean that the relationship you had with him meant nothing, try not to see it as a total waste of time, when you were in it, you were happy and you have good memories of your time together (even though they are painful right now). Some things are just not meant to last forever, and as you say, he is just not the one. Anyhow, I think his decision was a bit rash and it sounds like there were other reasons for the move, maybe the fight with his dad. It doesn't sound like he is thinking too clearly at the moment. Your happy ending will come Angelface!
DeniseGrooms_poodles Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Yes its very unpredictable though we must think positive even when it seems impossible. My husband outright left me and married another woman it occurred to me before long that it was just as well to not be married to a man that would simply up and leave me as if he did not love me at all. I to have come to terms with it and wish him and her well. I know the feeling.
lostmirthfulness Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Sorry to hear that angelface - I have similar story, but try 4 years and two months of dating, then within 3 weeks of us splitting up, she is in a new relationship. A month into that new relationship and she is looking at moving in with the new bloke. This is all after she said "I would never live with somebody unless I was married to them". Oh well - tis life I guess.
GrayClouds Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Any thoughts LS friends???? Sister your so beyond this. Your the beautifully slinky dressed women under the mirrored disco ball collecting the grand prize for best dancer while this here is just a couple of 5 graders holding each other awkwardly oscillating in concentric circles. Breath in, Breath out, and let it go. Sister,I happily I repeat, your so beyond this. As the Bee Gee's so eloquently stated it with that 4/4 beat, "You should be dancing, dance the night away!" .
Author angelface78 Posted November 27, 2009 Author Posted November 27, 2009 Yes i know...i will wish him the best. Gray Clouds how did you know im a great dancer??....lol Im not playing....i get down brotha!! you name it i can dance it!!! luv ya Gray...thanx
GrayClouds Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 Yes i know...i will wish him the best. Gray Clouds how did you know im a great dancer??....lol Im not playing....i get down brotha!! you name it i can dance it!!! luv ya Gray...thanx You convinced me, but this is a from a white guy who's only knowledge of rhythm comes from a catholic nun talking about how not to have stork come visit when me and my future held each other in that very very closely way that I would be damn to hell if it happened before marriage.
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