Colt2187 Posted December 15, 2003 Posted December 15, 2003 Hi everyone I'm obviously new to this forum,so I'll give you a very brief description of myself. I'm a very shy person, and am not the type to go up to someone I don't know and start talking w/ them. (which could hurt my social life severely) Ok so here's my story. I'm a junior in highshool and didn't start to notice this girl until this year. I've known this girl since gradeschool. By knowing, I mean I know her name, and that's it. The last time I talked to her was in the 4th grade. She was always what I considered the popular untouchable type. So now we're both in highschool, but go to different schools. I see her on the bus and at church sometimes. I noticed her staring at me in church in the summer of 10th grade (a year and a half ago!!) I looked up and she was staring at me and looked away very quickly and flicked her hair. She did this almost everytime I saw her. On the bus I would sit across from her and she wouldn't stare at me. And whenever I passed by her while she was talking w/ her friends on the bus , her whole group would get really quiet. I never really thought anything of it, b/c she was the popular type and I was just your average teenage guy who wouldn't have a chance w/ those types of girls. Now the more I think about it and I realize what a big idiot i've been for not making a move. (probably the most regretable thing i have ever done) Now this year she's still giving the same signs but not as much. So what do you guys think, do I still have a chance to get to know this girl?
dyermaker Posted December 15, 2003 Posted December 15, 2003 not the type to go up to someone I don't know and start talking w/ them. (which could hurt my social life severely) Really? Seems like the opposite is normally true. So what do you guys think, do I still have a chance to get to know this girl? Yes.
Author Colt2187 Posted December 15, 2003 Author Posted December 15, 2003 How would I approach her? I have nothing in common with her, and she seems like the shy type too. Should I be like, "Hi, How you doin, ..................." (anything I can add?)
dyermaker Posted December 15, 2003 Posted December 15, 2003 Well, you seem like a nice guy. You should get to know her in the way described above, if that's how you'd normally get to know someone. But, if she's still interested in you, quickly escelate the relationship so that she knows you're not like a brother to her.
Author Colt2187 Posted December 15, 2003 Author Posted December 15, 2003 how do I do that, tell her right off the bat how I feel about her? Thanks for the help
ASDFJKL Posted December 15, 2003 Posted December 15, 2003 You can't JUST get to know her, but by what it sounds like, you might even be able to start dating her. She is obviously interested in you, so you should make a move soon. Be gutsy. Whenever you see her at a time when she is not so occupied with all of her friends, just walk up and say, "Hey!" I know it's harder than it sounds. But you have to do it. Ask her how school is going or how she liked a certain school event...or talk about the classic: weather. ("It's freezing!") After you do this a few times, you may be even more comfortable with talking to her for longer periods of time. And another IMPORTANT thing to do: Make sure that you smile at her every time she looks at you...hold eye contact for awhile.
Author Colt2187 Posted December 16, 2003 Author Posted December 16, 2003 Thanks for the help, I'll put it to good use. Hopefully I can catch her on the bus, she's in a winter sport maybe God will provide an opportunity
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