Xochitl Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 I just saw a picture of my ex (we split up a year ago) on Facebook and it looked like it was taken by his new gf. I still feel like the jealousy and the disappointment is too much to handle. Obviously I need to get over it NOW. Otherwise I'm ruining my life for a guy who doesn't love me and never did seriously love me. Anyone who has been in my situation and has managed to use it to make changes in their life and become a better person through it, I would love your advice! Because I was really down when things didn't work out with him, I even lost touch with some of my closest friends and generally I feel that although I know loads of people I have few real friends. So this would be something to start with but you can't force friendships, they happen when they do. So I would love to find out how to change my life and outlook so that I can be more open to people and get there eventually. Right now I feel too desperate and I'm scared I'll come across clingy. Many many thanks!!
USMCHokie Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Obviously I need to get over it NOW. Don't put a timeline on your healing...as long as you're making positive changes in your life, your time will come when this is all a distant memory in the past... Reunite with old friends and make new friends...you can't force friendships, but you can certainly force yourself to meet new people...whether they become your new bffs, it'll happen if it happens...don't get to worried about that... At the same time, work on making yourself a better individual for you and the next person in your life...you'll be fine... Happy Thanksgiving!
GrayClouds Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 I just saw a picture of my ex (we split up a year ago) on Facebook And stay away from facebook, if upi keep picking the scab it wont heal.
USMCHokie Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 if upi keep picking the scab it wont heal. Ah, if only your hand was a half inch to the left... But he's right, you don't need to be snooping around on facebook...especially a year later...
Kaya Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Everything has a way of falling into place, especially when you know what you want to achieve. And you've made that first step by realising that you're ready for moving on and positive change. Focus on being comfortable with yourself and your confidence will improve. As USM says, work on making yourself a better person, find some things that interest you. Get out there and do the things that you enjoy, learn and grow. Just do it! do it! do it! It will work out, see it as an exciting adventure. And yes stay away from Facebook - it is pure evil!
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