summerlove Posted December 14, 2003 Posted December 14, 2003 [font=arial][/font] ok today is my bf birthday! and we were suppose to have the whole day together!but we didn't heres y! i spent sometime with him before i heading to work yesterday and when i left he asked if i was coming back to stay cause it was he's birhtday at 12 and he wanted me there! Well i got to work and just when i finished he called and said his friends were coming over and that he was goin to hang with them! it up-set me and i got disapponited! when i got home i showed my disapponitment over the phone and didn't even want to talk! when we hung up i didn't even say i love u i just let him say it! this made him mad! later on that night around 12:30 i got a call from him saying can you come and get me i'm smashed! this made me firious and want to break up with him right there!( in past history he and i decided if we went to parties it would be together and also i have turned down hundreds of parties and other activities he did not want me to attend and that is the major reason i'm up-set over the party!)but i agree to go get him and decided i would talk to him tomorrow and tell him how i felt! well when i left i got another phone call saying oh i got a ride! i was like ok so i went to his house to wait on him i waited over 45 mins when he was only 25 mins away i called several times and then called his freinds phone finally getting an answer he said he was still on his way by this time i was so mad i said this is f***** retared and hung up and came home! i wanted to break it off right then but he was drunk and it was his b-day and he wasn't even here in person to do it! so i decided to wake up and do it today well he call and appolagized this morning and told me he was sorry! and felt like **** this morning so i went over there and told him happy b-day! he then told me that he loved me and he did not feel good and he would call when he was better! he drunk way too much! but see should i be mad and break up ! all i know is i wanted to go and he ruined my whole night! i want to spend that time with him even if it was to get drunk! should i break it off or what should i do! i am so mad and upset!
dyermaker Posted December 15, 2003 Posted December 15, 2003 I don't know everything, just what you've posted. From that, I gather that you need to let him have his space, and be a tad more acommodating. I would say you should let him get smashed with his friends, and schedule a day that you two can spend together sober (or not, whatever). Making him feel guilty, or always being furious, is just going to make him want to spend less time with you. The guy just wanted to have fun, and he sounded sorry that he blew you off on his birthday. It's your choice to forgive him or not, but it doesn't look like you want to. It does seem like it doesn't take much to get you angry though, and I'm only concluding that your relationship isn't that strong because you said you expressed desires to break up with him three times in this one post. I think that you should break it off with him if you honestly can't communicate with him calmly. "This is f****** retarted" is not calm, it's angry. And constant angriness could be a sign of a weak relationship not worth pursuing. Or, it could be a sign that there's a problem in the way you deal with people, in that you don't understand their needs as well. I wish you the best of luck
Arabess Posted December 15, 2003 Posted December 15, 2003 It was his birthday and he got drunk with the guys. It happens frequently....and one CAN lose track of time while partying. One minute it's 7:00 pm....the suddenly it's midnight and your all messed up. I don't blame you for being angry...but I wouldn't blow it out of proportion either. It's a done deal....let it go. Just for a little payback though....you could give him some REAL sensuous details about what you DID have in mind for his birthday which included ONLY a bow.....but he missed it. I bet NEXT year....he'll be with YOU!
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