buckley11 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 (edited) Hello everybody, I'm new to the site. Anyway, my girlfriend dumped me about 6 weeks ago, and we've had very little contact since. We were together for a little over 2 years and needless to say, I'm pretty devastated still. Basically about 5 months ago, we were having a rough patch, arguing more than normal and we were also looking for a place to live together because we had to move out of our own places at that time. While we were in the process of looking for a place, my ex started asking me if her best (girl) friend could move in with us so we could all save money. I wasn't really into the idea, but eventually went along with it just to keep my girlfriend happy. Actually I was pretty hurt that she wouldn't just live with me..Anyway, one day she told me that her best friend had found a 4 bedroom place and that she (my ex) was moving in with her and another girl. She essentially said that I could move in if I wanted to, but i could tell she just wanted to live with the girls without me. Now, I loved this girl more than anything, and we had talked about marriage and kids in the past. Then she just tells me she's moving in with her friends, and just doesn't seem to give a crap about me anymore. She never even had a talk with me about it beforehand. ANyway, I decided to move into this house with the girls just to salvage our relationship. (I know, bad idea...) After I moved in, I just felt like a third wheel. Our sex life was still good, but she just started being so mean to me, saying hurtful things, and not even showing any remorse about it. She just seemed a little too "close" to her friend, and it kind of creeped me out a little a times. She was so nice to her, and just seemed to use me for rides, rent money, and occasional sex. Meanwhile, this was just killing me inside. Nothing I did made her love me like she used to. Here's a little history: She told me she dated a girl before me, but insisted it wasn't serious..They just kissed or whatever. We also had some mutual friends that were lesbians, and one night me, my ex, and one of the lesbian friends were intimate with each other. Sorry if this is TMI, but after that incident, she never seemed to express any interest in other women, and I just assumed it was an experimental phase of hers that had come and gone. So, after living in this house for 3 months, I couldn't stand the way she was treating me anymore, and I let her know it. Then, she basically broke up with me and threw me out of the house. This is the hardest thing I've probably ever been through. Anyway, my ex's best friend (the roommate) has always had boyfriends, and doesn't seem like she's truly bi-sexual, but what do I know? They just seemed a little too emotionally "close", and I actually started to feel jealous that they seemed to have so much fun together, but she would just go through the motions with me. I went back to the house last week when my ex wasn't there to get the rest of my belongings, and they had just had a huge party at the house because it was all decorated (so much for my ex's grieving process.) Anyway, there was a sign on the stairway up to the bedrooms that said "Gay scene: enter at your own risk." It's a joke of a sign, but why would you put that near your bedrooms if you're straight? AND, when I got my TV out of her room, there were a bunch of "L" Word dvds near it. That's a show on cable about lesbians. I promise I'm not making any of this up. I've been beating myself up so bad about the break up, feeling guilty about the arguments we had before the moving situation..But after seeing the stuff at the house, I'm starting to feel like maybe there IS something going on between my ex and her friend, and maybe I shouldn't feel as guilty and rejected. Maybe I should even feel happy that it's over. I'm just so confused and still very heartbroken. She basically blamed me for everything when we broke up, listed my faults, and didn't own up to anything. I'd really appreciate it if anybody could help me out here. I'm just trying to not feel so horrible about this. I know it seems like she may be in love with this girl instead of me, but is this too easy of an explanation? HELP! thank you for reading, and sorry for rambling on for so long. Edited November 26, 2009 by buckley11 plenty mistakes
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