BlueClover Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 I could use a little advice tonight, an ear, maybe a suggestion. I got my first Kick/ hit by my husband tonight. Now, I sorta believe I was in the wrong. I have just been fed up with how my husband speaks to me. He calls me an ******* and idiot almost everyday. Usually when I say no to unessesary spending (stuff like that). Most of the time the names he calls me are done kinda playfull but he says it so much it's so annoying. There have been times where I have screamed in top of my lungs asking for him to respect me and not to call me names. So tonight he called me an ******* while he was dialing the phone to call his mother and his mom accidently heard that and was obviously appauled. After he hung up with her I got so mad and fed up. He called me an ******* for getting angry at him for HIM leaving a very strong prescription pill on the floor.( mind that we have a crawling 11 month old baby)What made me most angry was that he was blaming me for it. That somehow I didn't shut the pill bottle?! I never ever ever touch his pills. Only when he leaves them on the coffee table and I put them on a high shelf so my daughter doesn't rattle with them which she has done before. Anyways, tonight I just was so fed up, and as we were sitting next to eachother and argueing I kept kicking him with my bare feet. It wasn't hard, I am a small girl. It was almost a playfull fight. He kept calling me a dumb bitch and still blaming me for the pill thing so I got up grabbed a shoe and was mocking him with it. I pretended that I was going to hit him in the face and lord behold I somehow slipped and slammed the shoe on his nose. He quickly slammed his foot on my leg, I fell down and he slammed his foot again on my legg for the second time as he cussed me out. I quickly got up, grabbed the baby and went to my room. Small bruises but the pain in my leggs lasted a few hours. Now I obviuosly should have never touched him. I should have never kicked him, so I feel it was my fault, but at some point one gets fed up of being called names everyday. ******* is my second name. I am a lazy housewife that sleeps all day he says. I was just laid off from my job. I was one of the most hardworking people there. Sometimes I think it's my fault because I feel dead. I feel like I lost the ability to love him for the past few years. We have been married for 4 years in which 2 and a half years we delt with his drug abuse problem. He is in out patient drug rehab( although he never attends his mandatory meetings). Now, I don't want to paint him as a monster cause he is a very loving person( or very affectionate) He is very intelligent and a professionaL but something has to give. If I told my parents how he responds to me they would be livid but iam ashamed to tell them. I guess my question is to a woman out there, should I walk away?
Gunny376 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Yea! Back in 1975 every time my Marine DI's chocked me, beat the crap out of me until I felt like the 'Nutty Professor" all I felt for them was nothing but 'love' When one of my DI's slammed the front sight of an M-16 into my eye? All I could think was "I love this guy!" When another 'gut-punched' me! All I could think about was how much he loved me! Not that I didn't understand. They were really doing me a favor, because what they did to me was half of what the other guys on the otherside of the wire would do to me were they to get their hands on me? They were trying to toughen me up! But I'm a guy, a man, and I volunteered of my own free will to be a Marine. I signed up for it! Your a woman and no man should be putting his hands upon a woman ~ no matter how much she torments him! (BTW? Quit doing that!) Both of you need to grow up!
Cranialrupture Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 (edited) Gunny has some good advice. Both need to grow up. But at the same time there is never an excuse to do what he did/doing. The verbal and physical abuse is wrong. Edited November 26, 2009 by Cranialrupture
tojaz Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Gunny has some good advice. Both need to grow up. But at the same time there is never an excuse to do what he did/doing. The verbal and physical abuse is wrong. Agreed. i would tell him how you feel and explain that your not going to stand for any of it!! EVER!!! I hope it was just an over response to getting thwacked with a shoe, but I would still make that very clear before things have the opportunity to get worse. TOJAZ
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