CBIIS1 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 She left four months ago. Emotions are still high. I'm in NC mode. The kids are at home with me. I have a girlfriend, she's alone. Her world is about to colapse like a house of cards. She's broke, she knows she won't have the kids for Christmas eve with her family this year, her mother or father could pass away at any time, her boob job is going on ten years and one of the girls is going to pop soon, she left for weak reasons and reality is starting to set in, her ex husband has new younger women in his life (not like he was looking but when you're a catch, well...) , she has a pacemaker (sick sinus syndrome) and its been nothing but problems since it went in four years ago, her parents were first cousins and she's had one health problem after another in the last twenty years because of her genetics. It gets better, I know you don't believe me. I got a feeling she'll be back when her backers, mom on the oxygen tank and dad on insulin, both in their 70's fall off. She's been real mean. How do you look someone in the eye after they f... you over and come knocking back when their house of cards crumbles? I know its coming, she doesn't but she was never too good at looking ahead. Its going to be a mess when she has to fight with her half sister (she belongs to the uncle) and her brother with whom incest occured start fighting for the will money. How do you take someone back after they fall on their faces, after the ugly ugly things they did to you?
BigTenInchRecord Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Well the answer is obvious, you don't. Personally I think it sounds like your a little too happy at all these horrible things going on in her life, but maybe the way she treated you justifies that? I don't know, but from the way your talking I don't know why on earth you would ever even want her back. It sounds like bad news to me.
mark982 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 the answer is pretty simple. when she comes knocking at the door ans starts telling you her tales of woo, look her in the eye and say "sucks to be you" and close the door.
Author CBIIS1 Posted November 27, 2009 Author Posted November 27, 2009 One problem, I made a commitment. I'm a man of my word. It said for better or for worse, sickness or health. I have children who are looking to me for guidance in life. I have to suck it up too. She wasn't a great wife, I was never terribly happy but long ago I made a promise, two kids are counting on me to follow through. Its not about me or where I should be to be happiest, that's obvious, away from her. But I got into an agreement and its a matter of principle. That's who I am. When I give you my word, its gold.
HeavenOrHell Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 You must have loved each other once. Any chance you could go to relationship counselling?
Author CBIIS1 Posted November 28, 2009 Author Posted November 28, 2009 When she left, she told me she no longer loved me, had wished me dead on many occasions, that she was past the point of no return. I had anxiety issues (I was sick and depressed) for many years. In the end I was constantly nagging her about her appearance, I don't know why. After I got proper treatment, which is damn near impossible in Northern Ontario, I was fine but it was too late for her. It was ok for her to be sick, for her to come from an incestuous messed up family but for me to have lost my way while holding her up was unforgivable. Yes we were teribly in love once and that's why I was so blind. Eight years into the marriage I was having doubts and didn't want kids. She threatened to leave, so I gave her a daughter and then a son which I both dearly love. Looking back I can say that it was her that drove me into the nut house. Ever live with a person who got raped by her brother? What makes it worse is they kicked her out of the family for 17 years and then took her back. She went back to them 10 years ago. She forgave them but she won't forgive me. I'm bitter but.... She said it was over but she had no idea what she was doing. Her best friend the bridesmaid has been coaching her. So far its been a fiasco for her. She's losing her kids. They want to stay with Dad because it turns out he's really the sane one. She's stubborn, proud and rarely admits to being wrong. I wonder if that'll be her downfall. We will see.
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