Author thatguy90 Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 ok and you said there was something about another guy and stuff? like my best suggestion is to not worry about it, like don't show your worry/hate towards him because it will only make her want to have what she can't have ... some girls work that way. Do you know why girls go mad for rock stars and movie stars? So what I can tell you, write out how you feel ... a relationship is a shared ... meaning that you give and take and she should give and take ... and try to keep a good balance ... she also may not know what she wants. If you two are dating still, well write out how you feel and what she is doing wrong, then read it, and see how you feel so you won't be frustrated by her actions. Then you begin to understand how exactly you feel, with that take proper actions. You also have to be careful because my girlfriend became abusive because i wanted to hang around with her at least a couple times a week ... but she was only willing to give me a day a week ... that is abuse ... because my needs aren't being meat and well just asking to see your girl friend twice a week once to ride the bus together and then another day just to have a date or do something with each other ... was that to much to ask from her? sorry for my rant ... i just get a little mad at my ex some moments in the day ... but to get back to your gf ... can you say what happened between your girl friend again ... its that another guy came into the picture? and that they had a past between them?
HLP234 Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Yeh it had something to do with this other guy I'm sure. She says they are best friends and they enjoy talking to each other. But all their status comments on myspace are about each other, or seem to be, maybe I'm just noticing the wrong things?? I told her about this and she said if she wanted him she would have dated him before she came to be closer to me and she said she could have done stuff with him too but she didn't. So she really does not know what she wants, is confused as well. All I can do is wait. Our conversations are not like they used to be, they are short and to the point. I told her about that too and she said thats how they were before, but I know for a fact they were not because we used to talk FOREVER. It is something else going on that I think she doesnt know or want to tell me.
HLP234 Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 (edited) Before she moved to my area, she hung out with this friend of hers for a few days..so I think this changed everything once she was far away from her home and missing everyone. UPDATE: I tell her I'm giving her space and time to herself and then she just accuses me of not caring and that I'm not trying. When I try to talk to her normally, she will be short and blunt, seem not interested and then she will tell me we are not together and I should not be asking her questions or trying to see what she is doing. If I keep things short as well she will think I'm upset and keep questioning me as to what's wrong. She told me that sometimes I do stuff that annoys her (which she never told me before, or what it was), we don't connect (We've known each other for 5 years, and we got along great when we started dating), and she says sometimes I'm boring. She also said her best friend is trying to get her to date him now and she told him that she is not over me and still loves me with every piece of her. I was basically destroyed after this and she apologized for everything and for making me feel horrible. I didn't talk to her all day yesterday and she was like why haven't you said anything to me today? I told her I would do anything to fix it as long as she was willing to as well and She said she felt like I was giving up. We are not together so why should I keep talking to her when she made me feel like a piece of crap, I've been depressed ever since this whole break thing. I feel like I've been trying so hard to make things works and it just seems like she doesn't want to try or talk about any solution to this. But then I get accused of not trying or not caring. I dunno what to say or tell her because I feel like this is not going anywhere and I do feel like not trying anymore, since I am so hurt. I would like to either make up with her or just try and heal another way. Edited December 5, 2009 by HLP234
Author thatguy90 Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 If she still loves you, then I would personally take baby steps back into the relationship, if you still love her back. That is what really matters.
HLP234 Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Well I do love her a lot. I have been keeping low contact with her for a while now. Yesterday she texts me to see how I am and she says she is so sorry for all the hurt she is causing me. She wants me to know that she is really sorry for how hurt I am and that what she is doing is selfish but since she is going home for the holidays, maybe that will help her out. She also said that by going home for the xmas break she does not feel rushed and that should help her. I just told her I'm getting through it and trying to heal myself. I'm not gonna try and think more about it, I know she will hang out with her best friend when she gets back home but I just hope she doesn't feel right to do anything with him..I would think that would be wrong because she gets mad at me if I even talk to another girl. So I guess I will wait a lil longer till she gets back and then if nothing changes I will have to let her know I need to heal myself and just stop talking completely I guess. Unless anyone has any other suggestions?
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