JackJack Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 When do you all begin counseling? I wonder what suggestions the counselor is going to make for him.
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 Well I'm not sure when we will go but I'll keep this updated he was sitting here talking about all that ya'll have wrote and he said that he wasn't wired like that that he honestly wants help he didn't like reddevil66's answer he said it was far from it, and I told him then why don't he just look up purple donkies instead since it has no meaning to u just as much as the women do. And he laughed and said ok I'll look them up, I told him it wasn't funny and he quit but I also told him it was ok to be interested in other women I look at men to and he just sorta got mad at that and said "I am not interested in other women I swear I don't know y I do it I just don't want to do it anymore" ok I am seriously leaning towards a problem, and I wish I could really help him he knows it does not bother me now but he still says its not what people think, he needs a serious counsler....
JackJack Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Obviously he is getting something from it, he keeps going back to it, but so far he hasn't said what yet. Do you think its possible, maybe, he does enjoy looking at these women and he is just telling you he doesn't like it, and wants to stop and doesn't know why he does it, just make you feel better? Same with the counseling thing. Maybe he feels going will make YOU feel better, and that its possible a counselor might tell you what he is doing is ok and for you to let it go.
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 Obviously he is getting something from it, he keeps going back to it, but so far he hasn't said what yet. Do you think its possible, maybe, he does enjoy looking at these women and he is just telling you he doesn't like it, and wants to stop and doesn't know why he does it, just make you feel better? Same with the counseling thing. Maybe he feels going will make YOU feel better, and that its possible a counselor might tell you what he is doing is ok and for you to let it go. The point is, I already have let it go, I look at men he knows that and I don't care if he does the point that drives me up the wall pretty much is that he says continiously that he doesn't know, I never wanted to go to a counsler honestly I don't know what they'll get out of it that I don't get, only the fact that it turns him on and so what? Other men turn me on, I just don't know why if he's lieing, he's so anal about it, he knows now it doesn't bother me if any of the above things are true, because we all look, its human nature, point blank, but he is so bound and determined to have whatever is "wrong" with him stopped, idk like I said it just seems like he's fighting with himself, like he really maybe telling the truth...
JackJack Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 The point is, I already have let it go, I look at men he knows that and I don't care if he does the point that drives me up the wall pretty much is that he says continiously that he doesn't know, I never wanted to go to a counsler honestly I don't know what they'll get out of it that I don't get, only the fact that it turns him on and so what? Other men turn me on, I just don't know why if he's lieing, he's so anal about it, he knows now it doesn't bother me if any of the above things are true, because we all look, its human nature, point blank, but he is so bound and determined to have whatever is "wrong" with him stopped, idk like I said it just seems like he's fighting with himself, like he really maybe telling the truth... It's good you've let it go then....sounds like this is his problem, and hopefully he can learn to let it go too.
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 It's good you've let it go then....sounds like this is his problem, and hopefully he can learn to let it go too. Hopefully whatever this problem maybe, I'm really curious now, well for two years but its just been so long I don't see him lieing anymore so this is really a mystery now to me
RedDevil66 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 It sounds to me like you've convinced him more than he's convinced himself that their is something wrong with him. Men looking at women, is as natural as sleeping
soserious1 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 (edited) What is it that you don't understand? 99.9% of men love looking at beautiful women, clothed or unclothed. A huge percentage of men also love large breasted women You have small breasts, he probably figured that given his looks and station in life that you were the best he could do and he settled for you. Unfortunately, "settling" doesn't help get the penis nice and hard. He most likely looks at those photo's to arouse himself and to give him something exciting to think of when he's got to have sex with you. Like my ex husband said" I'm a man, I like tits and since there aren't any nice ones at home, what do you expect me to do?" Edited November 26, 2009 by soserious1
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 What is it that you don't understand? 99.9% of men love looking at beautiful women, clothed or unclothed. A huge percentage of men also love large breasted women You have small breasts, he probably figured that given his looks and station in life that you were the best he could do and he settled for you. Unfortunately, "settling" doesn't help get the penis nice and hard. He most likely looks at those photo's to arouse himself and to give him something exciting to think of when he's got to have sex with you. Like my ex husband said" I'm a man, I like tits and since there aren't any nice ones at home, what do you expect me to do?" Its not that I don't understand I do I had a father and two brothers I grew up with, what u don't undertand is what we are trying to solve he doesn't understand because he is not aroused by it, and I'm glad that man is your ex because I sure as hell wouldn't except that, and if I wasn't what he wanted he shouldn't have been after me for three years, he had plenty of time to "explore" when he was alone those three, but he had wanted me, but I'm just saying, like I said I know a mans gonna look, that doesn't bother me, I look too! But the point is he don't know why, and I have shoved into his face repeatedly that it was normal, there is always gonna be a prettier girl, but he just says he knows but that isn't his problem, I wrote this journal on here to help my husband and it is just making him mad to the fact that everyone on here can't except that he can't be aroused and he looks for no reason and he just wants help, and the only rwason why I was upset was being I thought he had been lieing to me and that I can't take, I hate lieng with a padsion because all men look idc but I had him saying that this does notjing for him, ok so what man goes through that??! A gay guy??? Idk but he says he isn't, so I just want him help to find out y is all....
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 When I strip in front of him his eyes are looking me up and down and he gets hard there is no closing eyes and thinking of other things believe me I know, he like strip games...
soserious1 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 When I strip in front of him his eyes are looking me up and down and he gets hard there is no closing eyes and thinking of other things believe me I know, he like strip games... Keep fooling yourself dear.. there's one reason guys look at fully clothed beautiful women.. and I know this because the truth was flat out told to me. "I look to see what I want and don't have at home" Don't confuse love with desire.. he might well love you but what does he really desire on a physical level? I think you've got your answer, you just don't want to see and accept it.
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 Keep fooling yourself dear.. there's one reason guys look at fully clothed beautiful women.. and I know this because the truth was flat out told to me. "I look to see what I want and don't have at home" Don't confuse love with desire.. he might well love you but what does he really desire on a physical level? I think you've got your answer, you just don't want to see and accept it. No I want to and I have he doesn't want me too is the point, u see?
soserious1 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 No I want to and I have he doesn't want me too is the point, u see? What incites people to physical lust is very often programmed into them, it's an automatic response. He likes large breasted women, he's married to a woman with teeny, tiny, little post baby breasts, why do you think he's admiring pics of beautiful women with ample cleavage? This isn't rocket science and of course he's not going to tell you that, he loves you, doesn't want to hurt you and doesn't want to worsen this situation to the point that it becomes a living hell for him. Keep pushing the subject though and you'll get the truth.
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 What incites people to physical lust is very often programmed into them, it's an automatic response. He likes large breasted women, he's married to a woman with teeny, tiny, little post baby breasts, why do you think he's admiring pics of beautiful women with ample cleavage? This isn't rocket science and of course he's not going to tell you that, he loves you, doesn't want to hurt you and doesn't want to worsen this situation to the point that it becomes a living hell for him. Keep pushing the subject though and you'll get the truth. Ok my breasts aren't that small lol try 38 B, but yea I told him that and imma keep trying, but he just looked at me and said I already told u the truth, ugh, I hate men, and he's already hurt me enough, he's mad because "your not believeing me" w/e
soserious1 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Ok my breasts aren't that small lol try 38 B, but yea I told him that and imma keep trying, but he just looked at me and said I already told u the truth, ugh, I hate men, and he's already hurt me enough, he's mad because "your not believeing me" w/e If you're a 38 B, that means you've got small breasts (C is the average cup size these days)on a wide frame which makes the breasts look even smaller in comparison. A lot of gals who look like they have huge breasts actual might only have a C cup size but because their torso's are really slim they only wear a 32-34 inch band size.. a gal who wears a 32 B bra size is most likely to look better endowed than a gal wearing a 38 B.
soserious1 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 (edited) Ok my breasts aren't that small lol try 38 B, but yea I told him that and imma keep trying, but he just looked at me and said I already told u the truth, ugh, I hate men, and he's already hurt me enough, he's mad because "your not believeing me" w/e No, he's mad because you keep digging at him over an issue that should be easy to understand. His internal wiring programs him to be pleased and aroused by pretty women with ample breasts, he loves you though and tries to be discrete in his enjoyment of pictures of such women. Now you're repeatedly forcing him into a corner, forcing him to either lie to you or flatten you by telling you the plain truth, he looks at those women because he likes what he see's... keep pushing at him though.. he'll finally get mad enough that he breaks down and tells you exactly what he thinks about your breasts.. just think by Xmas he might scream at you that your breasts resemble 2 fried eggs nailed to an ironing board, just to end the argument, are you ready for that? Edited November 26, 2009 by soserious1
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 Ok I get I am small, I guess implants are an option
Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 I have not read the whole thread.. but methink you're making a big deal about 'nothing'.. honestly.. he's married to YOU... he loves to look at big breasts.. he's just normal.. for him it's a kind of very soft porn.. I will tell you a secret.. my MM from work is like your H.. he always says he's a boob-maniac.. his wife knows this.. he just can't get enough of those beautiful women with big boobs... His W has 'average' size boobs.. 'C' I think... I have huge boobs.. that's why he's soooo attracted to me.. he absolutely loves boobs... and he also said that he's doesn't always get an erection when looking at them.. he just enjoys it.. that's all.. Same with women looking at beautiful men ... we don't always go crazy.. it's just enjoyable.. No big deal.... leave him alone.. before he really gets pissed at you.. and acts on his 'fantasy'.. there is absolutely NOTHING you can do about it.. you cannot control his brain...
soserious1 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Ok I get I am small, I guess implants are an option No, you"re not "getting it" at all. No matter how big your breasts are he is always going to look at other women and yes Virginia, he will get physically aroused by them and yes he will even think of them from time to time while he's being intimate with you. Now, you can either focus on getting to the gym, dieting, toning and tightening yourself to be the very best small breasted woman you can be or you can continue to push your husband into telling you he thinks something is wrong with him in order to avoid hurting you or starting world was 3 in his own home. In short, I think a lot of this stems from you.. you've got a new baby, you're probably not feeling like Miss Universe these days and a lot of that feeling is getting transfred over to your husband.
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 Yea ur right and I c where ya are going but I've also always wanted bigger breasts, I never look good in shirts I guess I'm the reason he likes to look at them, but I have always wanted them bigger and he knows that and no objection
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 Honestly I don't care I think everyone is missing the point that was he lied to me...but whatever, I know he loves me I am not mad, I KNOW he looks, I do TOO, so what the heck?? And if he continues oh well I just wish men had good old respect for a woman, I guess I'm alittle religious on the issue but I know he loves me and likje I said there is always gonna be someone better but I still want inplants lol, I've wanted them since I stopped growing at like age 13 I had bigger boobs then but after wise I didn't get so lucky...
soserious1 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Yea ur right and I c where ya are going but I've also always wanted bigger breasts, I never look good in shirts I guess I'm the reason he likes to look at them, but I have always wanted them bigger and he knows that and no objection He is just pleased by the sight of big breasts, he could be married to Lizzie here who has huge knockers and he'd still look at other big breasted women. The other issue is this... and I'll be frank here .. unless you have the bone structure of a football player, a size 38 band size on your bra indicates that you could well afford to lose a few pounds, why not put the same energy you've been focusing on your husband into getting to the gym and following a sensible weight reduction plan? Get your pre-baby body back?
soserious1 Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Honestly I don't care I think everyone is missing the point that was he lied to me...but whatever, I know he loves me I am not mad, I KNOW he looks, I do TOO, so what the heck?? And if he continues oh well I just wish men had good old respect for a woman, I guess I'm alittle religious on the issue but I know he loves me and likje I said there is always gonna be someone better but I still want inplants lol, I've wanted them since I stopped growing at like age 13 I had bigger boobs then but after wise I didn't get so lucky... Read what you posted here and read it again and again. You are basically asking your husband to confirm that he finds your breasts as distasteful as you do and he'd love them to be bigger. He's lying to you because he knows that this cannot go anyplace good and that the end result of him being "honest" with you will be a train wreck.
Author WeirdedOut Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 What part of "I was not full term" don't u understand I am 6 0 foot also very slender for my height, I'm 162 but I guess I'm fat if that makes u feel better ill work" out"
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