Dexter Morgan Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 whats wrong with cheating back? 1) you no longer have a right to complain about being cheated on 2) you have become no better than the cheater, you are now a cheater yourself no matter what reason you try to use to justify it 3) you have become something no other decent person would want in a potential mate 4) cheating on a cheater, I believe, will just get you cheated on some more. a cheater will use your cheating, whether for revenge or whatever, to justify going out and getting more strange.
Dexter Morgan Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 This might sound kind of weird but the way I see if I were to ''hypothetically'' take back a cheater, I would so after I have secretly cheated back at him. Then off course make him work for what he's done, while inside I get to laugh. ah, so you want to be able to cheat, keep it a secret, while making him think he is the only worthless party in the relationship and make him grovel to you when you are no better?? aye yi yi. Maybe its best if you stay away from committed relationships.
Ross PK Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Just ignore him samsung, he's not worth it.
Author samsungxoxo Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 (edited) ah, so you want to be able to cheat, keep it a secret, while making him think he is the only worthless party in the relationship and make him grovel to you when you are no better?? aye yi yi. Maybe its best if you stay away from committed relationships. It's only a hypothetically event. I was saying if I were to ever take back a cheater. In reality nope, I never will. I will just go to my dumping methods I listed on the beginning of my thread. Just ignore him samsung, he's not worth it. True, not worth my energy at all. He expects everyone to think like him since he can't get over being a BS. Even brings the ex wife on many of these infidelity forums. Edited November 30, 2009 by samsungxoxo
Dexter Morgan Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 It's only a hypothetically event. but one where you say you would like to cheat back all the while keeping it a secret so you can punish "him" for something you did to....while you get to skate.
confusedinkansas Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Please, I would call that stupidity and immaturity IMO. Stupid & Immature? To "Take A Cheater Back"? - Life is not black & white. Not only do grown up, mature, intelligent people take cheaters 'back' - but the cheaters themselves change & make marriages even better than before. That would be the gray area. Not every relationship is the same. Happens all the time. To cheat on someone "back" because they cheated on you - that is a bit juvenile - But again, gray area - To each his or her own.
Author samsungxoxo Posted December 2, 2009 Author Posted December 2, 2009 (edited) but one where you say you would like to cheat back all the while keeping it a secret so you can punish "him" for something you did to....while you get to skate. Yup, guess I'm... convenient in that case. If I'm the punisher then it means I don't do any work or if I do, then do as little as possible. Another major reason can be due to ''EGO''. We as humans (well many of us, both men and women) like to protect our ego from getting shatter to pieces to the point sometimes may keep our guard down until you start trusting. It's like a fragile glass. Some people aren't emotional, I'm not as a woman but when it comes to ego, I may break easily when getting hurt emotional so badly even if I don't show it publicly. Cheating is the same as rejection itself.. leading to your ego getting bruised so badly. I may sound like I display anger and ''payback'' time event (by my post) when getting hurt but it just means deep down, you're plainly hurt and just as fragile as the typical emotional person. You just are so at lost and don't know how to deal with it that you don't think at a professional, sophisticated way. Stupid & Immature? To "Take A Cheater Back"? - Life is not black & white. Not only do grown up, mature, intelligent people take cheaters 'back' - but the cheaters themselves change & make marriages even better than before. That would be the gray area. Not every relationship is the same. Happens all the time. To cheat on someone "back" because they cheated on you - that is a bit juvenile - But again, gray area - To each his or her own. This is why I made my own thread on this forum. Now if I was writing on the cheaters' story I wouldn't say things like this. You don't see me venting out on their stories as I would have no business. Perhaps life may not be black and white in some areas but many will demand loyalty in their SO as well as being reciprocal. Yeah to each their own. Edited December 2, 2009 by samsungxoxo
eeyore1981 Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 from what you are saying, it seems as if , for you, an affair wouldn't so much be for "revenge", but more as a way to make you feel desirable, wanted, appreciated because your husband is constantly making you feel as if you are not. I don't know if having an affair would take away your pain, or if it would just make you feel worse. but whatever you do, I hope that you can start to feel better- ( I have to say that even though I don't know him I am really angry at your husband for making you feel this way:mad:- it sounds like he could use a good swift kick in the rear! BBM Among other things, lol. It's not about feeling desirable. It's odd, as I am overweight, old, and don't consider myself a man magnet, but men seem to find me attractive, anyway. I even managed to score me a somewhat stalker a few years back. Lol, lesbians seem to find me attractive, too, but that's another story. H has lied so much, for so long, I just can't wrap my head around it. If I cheated, H wouldn't even have to know. This isn't about rubbing his face in it, either. It's just for all the years we have been married, the worst thing I ever did was bounce some checks. I didn't lie about it, and I took my lumps for it. It would take several pages to list all the crap H has done to me. Having an affair, for me, would be, ha, now I have done something terrible to you, and also, I wouldn't care about his affair anymore, since I had one, too. I wouldn't care about his non stop lying, as I would be lying, too. But I've had 2 opportunities now, this last one, IMO, was perfect, but when it came down to it, my head was saying, "Do it, do it, do it", and my mouth opened up and shut it down. I'm still kicking myself over that one. So at least for now, this is just something I spend way too much time thinking about doing. I seem to be missing whatever it takes to follow through.
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