thepulse27 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I have loved with every fibre of my being. I have given myself completely. I have been there through the very worst times. And now I'm left stranded at the fork, lost. But I have more than enough love for two of us, and I think I'm ready to start walking. Even though all I can feel is pain, I cant wait for the day when I meet someone and I can give it all away again. Thank you DenverBachelor. Never settle for someone you don't love so deeply it makes your soul ache.
amberbook Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 i am a girl, but i can relate to this. i had been dating my boyfriend for over three years (since high school) and i thought we were on the verge of being engaged, but one day(last week) i get a TEXT MESSAGE saying that his feelings had changed and that he didn't want a relationship at the moment. I respeccted this because at the time i thought that maybe he just needed some space and that maybe things were moving in a scary direction for him. but i find out that less than three days after breaking up with me he already has a new girlfriend and is saying that he loves her (and she already has a kid by some other guy). he has not called me, or anything and it feels as if i've been left hanging out off a cliff alone, while he moves on. And the kicker is, i had just seen him a few days before this and he acted as if nothing was wrong. this completely blindsided me. i did not realize that is feelings had changed. it felt as if my heart had been ripped out of my chest. and even though i'm only 19, he was my first boyfriend (my first everything really) and everyone has been telling me that i'm going to get over it, but idk if its that easy.
prayingshecomesback Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 i am a girl, but i can relate to this. i had been dating my boyfriend for over three years (since high school) and i thought we were on the verge of being engaged, but one day(last week) i get a TEXT MESSAGE saying that his feelings had changed and that he didn't want a relationship at the moment. I respeccted this because at the time i thought that maybe he just needed some space and that maybe things were moving in a scary direction for him. but i find out that less than three days after breaking up with me he already has a new girlfriend and is saying that he loves her (and she already has a kid by some other guy). he has not called me, or anything and it feels as if i've been left hanging out off a cliff alone, while he moves on. And the kicker is, i had just seen him a few days before this and he acted as if nothing was wrong. this completely blindsided me. i did not realize that is feelings had changed. it felt as if my heart had been ripped out of my chest. and even though i'm only 19, he was my first boyfriend (my first everything really) and everyone has been telling me that i'm going to get over it, but idk if its that easy. Same EXACT thing happened to me! Was with a girl for 3 years. We always talked about getting engaged and we spent the whole entire weekend before the day she broke up with me. Asked her twice if she met somebody else and she flat denied it. 1 week later she was dating her tennis partner and he has a seven year old child! Havent heard from her since either. Liars... That is what they are. I know you are hurting. I was betrayed too. I gave this girl everything. She is the most selfish person. You WILL get over it. You are young and you are going to meet the guy that blows you away and you wont think about this jerk again. Hang in there. Just keep having faith this is a merely a stop, and eventually your bound to come out on top. So just dont quit! Open your heart to the next guy.
Johnootes Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 DB - wonderful post! I can relate to every word you wrote. Its sad but of some comfort to know I'm not alone. I loved the fork in the road analogy. Very powerful imagery. Thank you.
abdellost Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 great post denver. I can relate so much to this. I was a good man for 5 years. I have 5 sisters and a mother who have been cheated on. I hated my dad for doing so, hurting my sisters and my mom. i swore i would never be such a man. I know i am a special breed. For the 5 years i was with that girl, NOT ONCE i looked at another girl in lust and think of her in a sexual desire. I loved that girl to death. I went to bed thanking God each day for her. I never felt what people say "you never know what you have until you lose it" because each day i appreciate having her. Thing is, these girls, these types, think they can find a guy like US. A guy that NEVER EVER LIED TO THEM ( ( swear on everything i never lied to her, even told her i was in a stripper bar which was a half restaurant and i didnt know until i walked in there with my friends and she called me at the same second AND I WAS OVERSEAS and still honest). she doesnt know how guys are. that they look at other girls, lie, wont sacrifice anything for her. we as the special breed have a hard time trying to keep our morals. I have never touched a beer bottle or even came near hash or weed. No, i am very open minded and ALL my friends do things straight down to Ecstasy. But i dont see any point of these things that people do. BUT RIGHT NOW my morals are on the line. i been a great guy all my life, good boy as you can say. Why do i have to suffer like this? get punished? i did nothing wrong. its been 2 months and i been fighting my morals, trying not to even fall for peer pressure into smoking a cigarette. Do we win at the end?
abdellost Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 i am a girl, but i can relate to this. i had been dating my boyfriend for over three years (since high school) and i thought we were on the verge of being engaged, but one day(last week) i get a TEXT MESSAGE saying that his feelings had changed and that he didn't want a relationship at the moment. I respeccted this because at the time i thought that maybe he just needed some space and that maybe things were moving in a scary direction for him. but i find out that less than three days after breaking up with me he already has a new girlfriend and is saying that he loves her (and she already has a kid by some other guy). he has not called me, or anything and it feels as if i've been left hanging out off a cliff alone, while he moves on. And the kicker is, i had just seen him a few days before this and he acted as if nothing was wrong. this completely blindsided me. i did not realize that is feelings had changed. it felt as if my heart had been ripped out of my chest. and even though i'm only 19, he was my first boyfriend (my first everything really) and everyone has been telling me that i'm going to get over it, but idk if its that easy. i had been with my girl since i was 15, iam 20 now. she just broke up. the same way, via a text (is that a new trend). apparently theres no one new. I dont know. we had a lot of stress between us sneaking around from her family. but i dunno. i know how you feel. you will get over it. i been in NC for 2 months and cant say im getting better, but i do see hope in the future.
monkeymaid Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 my question is, is the love enough for 2 a burden we should bear? something that makes us feel good to contain by ourselves, or is it something that would be put to better use by sharing it with someone? love enough for 2. this is making me sad its not that my heart isnt huge, its not that i dont want to give everything, its that we cant bear that burden becasue in a relationship, we must carry our half of the relationship. when we come together, we are exactly half of the relationship. a whole person who has become half of a bigger entity. if we hold it together by ourselves, is it not just us having a relationship with our selves? ...sorry abdellost made me think about this when he asked "do we win at the end?" and i dont think its about winning or losing, but sharing. we know how to share, we know how to hold our own, but then the complexity of 2 and the emotions that ensue are what creates the web of the relationship.... now im just confused
Mel8 Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 THANKS SO MUCH FOR THIS! Man, my ex and I broke up over a year ago and he has been moving on with a new chick and I have been moving on alone. And I was really ready to just let go when MSN and FB shows me these lovey dovey pics of them like goddamned lovebirds! I haven't been on loveshack for a while because I thought I was moving on but when I saw those pics, I broke down again. Ugh. Thank you so much for this. You are totally awesome!
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