Lkldchic627 Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 (edited) Okay, this might be confusing but please bare with me. My fiance and I will be together 6 years this Valentines day. We have always had a very strong emotional bond up until the past year and a half. We love each other very much, I couldn't fathom him not being in my life. We are both VERY honest, we have a very open relationship. We talk about the ideas of extramarital affairs and people we think are attractive. He doesn't have a jealous bone in his body. He is very attracted to me and vice versa. This past year has been tough on us finacially and my husband has been so stressed out and depressed. He says he wishes he could just sleep the rest of his life which of course is very hurtful for me to hear. He doesn't want to talk about things we would have talked about before. I have a strong feeling he just isn't happy with being with me anymore. The fire is out. I have told him this in a very mature way and have told him that I can't stand to see him unhappy and if I have to leave him for him to find someone that could make him happy then I would. It would kill me inside and I would probably end up alone forever but i would do it if thats what it would take. He was like this when we met but The love buzz over powered it for all these years. I guess the buzz is gone? His answer to that is that he loves me and would never leave me no matter what. I am pretty sure he is unhappy because he is 27, in his prime and constantly has women wanting his number or time but he cant go through with his urges because he loves me to much. It makes me feel really bad. Ive asked him if he feels obligated to be faithful to me and he says no but I dont think hes being truthful. I dont know what to do. He says all of this but I feel the opposite. Should I take it upon myself to leave? He has said if I ever left he would have no purpose to continue working or living well, he would give up. I dont want to leave but I dont know how much more of this black cloud I can handle. Heres my myspace to get a better mental picture.... http://www.myspace.com/lkldchic627 Edited November 25, 2009 by Lkldchic627 Add something
Author Lkldchic627 Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 Wow, I guess I really am alone on this one. I'm I crazy or something?
cybersister Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 I am not sure i follow- for a start fiance one sentance and later husband ... then not sure what the issue is- fidelity ? money issues? falling out of love and if so is it mutual ? It sounds like he might be depressed to me and I have experience of how hard that is to live with is someone will not seek help.
VeveCakes Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Kind of sounds like you want to leave him but want to make his fault. He is saying if you leave him he will have no reason to live...doesn't sound like someone who wants out. I agree it sounds like depression, he should consult a doctor. Also, is he your fiance or husband?
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