Star Gazer Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Good news. Got a response from him: Hey! Coffee would be cool. What're you doing in the next few days? I actually haven't done the test yet. Probably will in about a week or so. But yeah, my number is --------------, totally give me a call! That's a great response!
Author shadowplay Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 Yeah, I'm looking forward to it. He seems like one of the more intelligent, interesting guys I've encountered in my department. Even if it just sparks a friendship, I'll be pleased.
jerseyboy Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Yeah, I'm looking forward to it. He seems like one of the more intelligent, interesting guys I've encountered in my department. Even if it just sparks a friendship, I'll be pleased. He likes you Thats the impression I got from his response.
Author shadowplay Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 He likes you Thats the impression I got from his response. Hehe.....don't tell me that or I'll get tongue-tied when I see him. I'd rather go in believing that he doesn't like me, so I'm more relaxed.
jerseyboy Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Hehe.....don't tell me that or I'll get tongue-tied when I see him. I'd rather go in believing that he doesn't like me, so I'm more relaxed. Its true Hes definitely feeling your vibe. I can tell from his response.
Author shadowplay Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 (edited) OK, so we're meeting on Wednesday night at a cafe that he suggested. This all was arranged through text because I chickened out on calling him. I'm pretty sure he's interested, but I'm still freaked out about going. Another thing is I haven't seen him in person since I sent the first email and I'm nervous about that. Tomorrow I will inevitably run into him in the art building because we both have class there around the same time. It seems like it will be really awkward to see each other in that context. I mean we've made arrangements to meet up the following day, so what do we say when we see each other at school? Do you know what I mean? It's especially awkward because we almost never talked before this (I start blushing and go blank when he's around), so it's not like we can just carry on some small talk. Edited December 1, 2009 by shadowplay
Author shadowplay Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 (edited) Update Had my date with S last night. It went really well. I was nervous as hell, so I got a little buzzed on beer before I left. That helped so much because I was pretty relaxed when I saw him. We ended up going to a bar as the coffeehouse we had planned on was closing. I could tell almost immediately that he thought of it as a date by his slight (cute) nervousness. While we were talking he mentioned something about showing me this cd at his place after and I was thinking hmmm But I decided to go because I trusted him. Dunno if this was a mistake. I was also pretty buzzed by this point. Anyway, he was really gentlemanly. We listened to music and watched part of Inglorious Bastards in his room. We have so much in common, and I could tell he was impressed with my musical knowledge. I was sitting on his bed next to him, but he didn't make a move for the longest time. I was starting to get anxious because I really wanted him to kiss me. Finally I started to fall asleep, and he put a blanket over us. I didn't want to go home at this point because it was 1 AM, cold and raining outside (we would have to walk). As he lay down next to me, he put his arm around me and we started kissing. Suddenly he was really into it. Like breathing very heavily and shaking a bit. I could tell he was very attracted to me and having trouble controlling himself, but he also wasn't pushy at all. We didn't do more than kiss, cuddle and a little of second base, then fell asleep. I feel pretty confident that he's quite into me. He mentioned a few times us doing things in the future like "we'll have to see that movie together, or remind me to show you this next time," etc. And also just the sum total of small cues in his demeanor. I'm still kind of regretting going that far on the first date and especially going back to his place so soon. But at the same time I felt attracted to him and wanted to....so why not? We didn't screw. Also he doesn't seem like the kind of guy who would judge a girl about that. Anyway, I really, really like him. He's smart, cool, cute and most importantly respectful and kind. Unlike my ex. Edited December 3, 2009 by shadowplay
Author shadowplay Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 sigh...now i'm really regretting going to his house so soon. I feel like I spoiled things.
jerseyboy Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 You didn't spoil anything Sounds like a great date. Dont start stressing it then actually spoiling things by coming off way different than you were yesterday due to insecurity. Be vivacious and throw him a few bones/compliments. He sounds shy and is likely as nervous as you
Awesome Username Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Good news. Got a response from him: Hey! Coffee would be cool. What're you doing in the next few days? I actually haven't done the test yet. Probably will in about a week or so. But yeah, my number is --------------, totally give me a call! Awwwwe! That is a total shy boy that likes you and is excited that you made the first move email!!!
Awesome Username Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 sigh...now i'm really regretting going to his house so soon. I feel like I spoiled things. I don't think that it's so strange that you made out in the first date, considering you two have been having sexual tension for a while now. It might be different if it was the absolute first time you've ever met him (blind date) but since you two already know a bit about each other, I think you're just fine.
Star Gazer Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 sigh...now i'm really regretting going to his house so soon. I feel like I spoiled things. Eh, based on the evening as you described it, I really don't think you did.
Author shadowplay Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 Thanks, guys! It was pretty cool kissing him after imagining what it would be like for about a year. You've all been really helpful and encouraging...especially when I get stressed out. Actually, I never would have made the first move if it weren't for this thread.
Ody Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Thanks, guys! It was pretty cool kissing him after imagining what it would be like for about a year. You've all been really helpful and encouraging...especially when I get stressed out. Actually, I never would have made the first move if it weren't for this thread. Yay congrats! I don't think you spoiled anything either. Good for you!
Ariadne Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 sigh...now i'm really regretting going to his house so soon. I feel like I spoiled things. Well, I give you another date or two maybe before you are sick of this guy.
Author shadowplay Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 Well, I give you another date or two maybe before you are sick of this guy. Lol. ----------------------
jerseyboy Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Poor guy must have had blue balls so bad hes still walking funny
the beholder Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 sounds like the begining of a happy story.... hope your relationship is finally on the right track
Author shadowplay Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 I have another date with S tomorrow (Friday) night. I'm excited! One question. I know how guys assume that each date goes farther once physical contact has been made. So he'll probably invite me back to his place. Since I slept at his place last time and we got to second base won't he be annoyed if we don't go all the way this time? I mean would it be weird for me to sleep in his bed again and not have sex with him? But I feel like it's too early for me to have sex with him on the second date. I might be more comfortable with the third or fourth. I don't want to seem easy, and I also want to know him a little bit better first. I also don't want to make him feel led on, though.
the beholder Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I have another date with S tomorrow (Friday) night. I'm excited! One question. I know how guys assume that each date goes farther once physical contact has been made. So he'll probably invite me back to his place. Since I slept at his place last time and we got to second base won't he be annoyed if we don't go all the way this time? I mean would it be weird for me to sleep in his bed again and not have sex with him? But I feel like it's too early for me to have sex with him on the second date. I might be more comfortable with the third or fourth. I don't want to seem easy, and I also want to know him a little bit better first. I also don't want to make him feel led on, though. Do yourself a favour... don't get into bed anyime soon. I mean not even the third or forth date. I can understand how eager you are for something loke this to happen but don't act too easy to get.
Author shadowplay Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 Do yourself a favour... don't get into bed anyime soon. I mean not even the third or forth date. I can understand how eager you are for something loke this to happen but don't act too easy to get. But I've already been in his bed. Lol. We just didn't have sex. So how do I handle that now without being a tease?
the beholder Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 But I've already been in his bed. Lol. We just didn't have sex. So how do I handle that now without being a tease? To make it clear what i meant was to literally get naked in bed i.e. to have sex
Jerseyboy. Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 But I've already been in his bed. Lol. We just didn't have sex. So how do I handle that now without being a tease? Show him this
Author shadowplay Posted December 5, 2009 Author Posted December 5, 2009 Another really good date last night. We wanted to see music but all the bands playing in town were crap, so we got some drinks and talked for awhile, then rented a movie and watched it at his place. No sex yet, but I did sleep over again. It's funny... I asked him if he was surprised when he got my first email and he said "Yeah, but in a good way." And then he laughed and added "I actually thought you thought I was totally lame." (Apparently I once said goodbye to him in a curt way, which I have no memory of.) I laughed and explained that I'm just shy and he said "I know." He asked me to have dinner with him tonight. He and his brother are making food. I told him that I wanted to spend the night getting caught up with my work, and suggested we do something tomorrow night instead.
threebyfate Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 Good signs, particularly him asking you to have dinner tonight, within your previous date! IME, men who are interested, ensure they've got your time under lock and key, rather than gaming you with a delay of a couple or more days.
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