Lost-n-confused Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 What do you feel is the perfect first kiss or share a story of a first kiss that truely knocked your socks off.
Art_Critic Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 One that happens on the first date... The first time I kissed my wife my lips were numb for 30 mins afterward.. I knew right then she was it .. then I found out she used lip plumper and it just made my lips numb
Ms. Joolie Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 For me, the perfect first kiss should be electrical. To be electrical it would have to involve two people connecting with each other, compatible and receptive to each other. The perfect first kiss is energizing, and it's a trick. It's a trick because it makes you want more. That's my perfect first kiss story, or a perfect kiss story.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted November 24, 2009 Author Posted November 24, 2009 I ment more like how was it done. Technique, timing and so forth. Also maybe the first kiss wasn't good can you recover? Would you give someone a second chance if they messed up the first kiss?
neowulf Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I don't honestly think it has much to do with the physical technique (I mean... it's kissing? how complicated can it be?) I've never had any "bad" kissers, although I admit to feeling nothing when kissing some girls (not a good sign it turns out). The hands down, best first kiss was with an ex. The moment we kissed, I lit up like a Christmas tree. My whole body tingled for 15 minutes after.. I practically feel out of the car and stumbled over the gutter She apparently went home and called a friend to tell her she'd had the best kiss of her life.. *sigh*
Ms. Joolie Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 (edited) Oh, that's what you meant. I ment more like how was it done. Technique, timing and so forth. Technique - the touch should be sensual but light on the lips. Lightly press your lips to the top part of your hand. Just touch your hand, don't put pressure to where it moves your hand. When you are kissing your woman, you want to touch her soft lips while kissing her, not apply pressure to her head. It's not just touch, but movement also. The movement of your lips will depend on you two. Google "kissing techniques" for more info on different styles of kissing. Timing - Whether it's a quick peck or long and sensual is up to you. Also maybe the first kiss wasn't good can you recover? Would you give someone a second chance if they messed up the first kiss? My very first kiss ever was not so good. The guy stopped me and said I was trying too hard, that I had to kiss softer. I think I held onto that piece of advice every kiss since then. Good advice. He did give me a second chance and things went well. haha. Well, the kiss anyway. Edited November 24, 2009 by Ms. Joolie
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I can't say I've ever had a first kiss with a guy that was just a peck on the lips and then just finished. LOL So when you ask about "first" kisses....generally for me there's like 5 of them and they involved tongue. How in the hell can you **** up all 5 of them? But yeah - if he does absolutely horrible at all of them, then I probably wouldn't be that interested in continuing with him. Definitely the most electrical kisses were about more than the physical component. There was a deeper emotional connection/attraction for the guy.
jerseyboy Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 It may or may not involve the police shouting at you with a loud speaker "If I have to tell you one more time the park is closed before you get out, I will arrest you." because apparently neither of you heard the first several warnings.
TaraMaiden Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 OMG. My first kiss with my partner was so erotically, so sensually so romantically charged, my feet tingled and I felt an arousal that lasted 3 days.....
jerseyboy Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 OMG. My first kiss with my partner was so erotically, so sensually so romantically charged, my feet tingled and I felt an arousal that lasted 3 days..... LOL. When your face hurts froms smiling so much.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted November 24, 2009 Author Posted November 24, 2009 Sounds like a sucessful first kiss is sucessful because of chemistry. So anyone who has followed my threads knows Im taking this girl out this coming weekend and want to go for the first kiss. So how do you know when the chemistry is right? I really want to know how you got into the situation? Did you/ did they just grab you and start kissing or were you already in close and just went for it?
tigressA Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I had a first kiss a couple weeks ago on a date with a guy I've been seeing and it was, I think, the best one ever. Here's some technique for you, Lost-n-confused;): We were cuddled on the couch and he took my hands, one and then the other. He lightly kissed/licked/breathed on each palm, each knuckle, each fingertip, going about it verrrry slowly. I did the same with him; then he pulled me closer. I breathed on his neck, into his open mouth, kissed his chin, brought my mouth closer and then drew back a couple times, teasing him a little, and then finally let our lips meet. I was on a high for days afterward. I feel tingly right now just having written about it.
reservoirdog1 Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 My first kiss with my GF was the night we met, earlier this year at a Valentine's Day-themed singles party. The host had arranged for a photographer friend to be there. GF and I had been bantering back and forth, then she dragged me into the room where the photographer was set up. A few photos in, I spontaneously kissed her, and she responded. Click. Seriously, how many couples actually have a photo of their first kiss?
Author Lost-n-confused Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 (edited) I had a first kiss a couple weeks ago on a date with a guy I've been seeing and it was, I think, the best one ever. Here's some technique for you, Lost-n-confused;): We were cuddled on the couch and he took my hands, one and then the other. He lightly kissed/licked/breathed on each palm, each knuckle, each fingertip, going about it verrrry slowly. I did the same with him; then he pulled me closer. I breathed on his neck, into his open mouth, kissed his chin, brought my mouth closer and then drew back a couple times, teasing him a little, and then finally let our lips meet. I was on a high for days afterward. I feel tingly right now just having written about it. If your cuddling half the battle has been won. Im going on a dinner date. No possibility of going back to anyones place as we both live with our parents. I feel like the only a fast pec is all im going to be able to afford and that wont be good. How does one go in for the slow, soft passionate first kiss? Edited November 25, 2009 by Lost-n-confused
tigressA Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 If your cuddling half the battle has been won. Im going on a dinner date. No possibility of going back to anyones place as we both live with our parents. I feel like the only a fast pec is all im going to be able to afford and that wont be good. How does one go in for the slow, soft passionate first kiss? Hmm...well, there was another time this same guy and I were hanging out, before our first real date, and there was a moment when we hugged goodbye and almost kissed. I think, to create a moment to have that slow, soft, passionate first kiss in your circumstance--when you're going in for the goodnight hug, have it linger for a little bit. Don't pull away quickly; do it slowly, with your arms still around them and make eye contact. Move back in...tip your face up toward his...he'll definitely get the message.
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 So how do you know when the chemistry is right? Oh, you just know. LOL I know it doesn't help to read that, but it's true. When you feel it, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. You both "click." Hard to explain. I really want to know how you got into the situation? Did you/ did they just grab you and start kissing or were you already in close and just went for it? Sitting in his truck at the end of the 2nd date. Chatting back and forth. Cracking jokes. Laughing a lot. The energy flow was awesome. We were both feeling the attraction (trust me - YOU'LL KNOW! - just trust your gut). He just slides into the conversation: "OK, kiss me and then I gotta go." HAHAHA I started laughing and said, "Oooohhh, so you want me to call that bluff, huh?" He got a big ol' grin and nodded enthusiastically. I hemmed and hawed like I wasn't sure (playing around). He says, "You don't have to." LOL I said, "No - I want to," and planted a kiss on him. Mine was a quick peck. He paused for like 3 seconds looking at me and pulled me back to his lips. Where we then smooched for probably like 10 mins. LOL
Author Lost-n-confused Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 Is it possible to have the first kiss happen too early? I'm still confused if this girl considering us going out on a date or friendly meet. Obvious I'm very inexperienced and having a very hard time reading signal and have no instinct and/or don't trust my instincts. I feel chemistry but I don't know if the signals she is sending are her feeling chemistry or just her being friendly. The whole "I'm not looking for a relationship" thing has me deeply confused me.
TaraMaiden Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Sounds like a sucessful first kiss is sucessful because of chemistry. So anyone who has followed my threads knows Im taking this girl out this coming weekend and want to go for the first kiss. Don't 'want' to do anything. Kissing is really quite spontaneous, and something both people feel. Don't sit there planning this. It's not a military operation. It's something between two people who feel the same way. And know it. if you have any doubts she feels the same way - don't do it. So how do you know when the chemistry is right? you just do. It's hard to describe it, but if you don't know - then it's not there. You can't sit and chemically create the chemistry... I really want to know how you got into the situation? Did you/ did they just grab you and start kissing or were you already in close and just went for it? You could say, at the end of the evening, that you feel like kissing her, how does she feel about that? Then - you'll know. For sure. In her facial expression, her body language and physical movement. Long before she says anything.
jerseyboy Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 You could say, at the end of the evening, that you feel like kissing her, how does she feel about that? Then - you'll know. For sure. In her facial expression, her body language and physical movement. Long before she says anything. Never ask dude. Its lame If you've already held her hand? Played with her hair? If yes and yes, and she seemed cool with it, then youre ok to kiss her.
VeveCakes Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 yes pleae do not ask that is a major turn off! just pull her close to you and plant one!
Ody Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Never ask dude. Its lame If you've already held her hand? Played with her hair? If yes and yes, and she seemed cool with it, then youre ok to kiss her. Yes asking is a bad idea. Only thing it might accomplish is convincing her that you are not confident, or turn her off, which is not where you want to be. LnC, just go for it, the worst thing that can happen is she pulls away/averts the face/whatever. That rarely happens. If you feel any chemistry at all as you say then you're probably good. People like to kiss, even if it's not perfect, it will be fine!
jerseyboy Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 When I think about it, because its not a conscious thing really, but playing with her hand will tell you everything you need to know.
Ms. Joolie Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Never ask dude. Its lame If you've already held her hand? Played with her hair? If yes and yes, and she seemed cool with it, then youre ok to kiss her. I'm having a problem with the holding hands thing. Do guys really hold hands on the first/second dates? I can see a gentleman offering his arm.... but holding hands seems incredibly friendly and intimate, a little too much so. I just don't think it's a good idea at this stage. It's like holding hands is something a couple of 10 or 20 years would do.
Ms. Joolie Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 When I think about it, because its not a conscious thing really, but playing with her hand will tell you everything you need to know. Playing with the hand is fun and can be flirty or sensual.... but holding hands is another thing.
jerseyboy Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 I'm having a problem with the holding hands thing. Do guys really hold hands on the first/second dates? I can see a gentleman offering his arm.... but holding hands seems incredibly friendly and intimate, a little too much so. I just don't think it's a good idea at this stage. It's like holding hands is something a couple of 10 or 20 years would do. I dont know what other guys do. I do. Its never been an isssue for me. But I am way more touchy feely than most people, and it depends on what Im feeling as well. Its not planned , it just happens. You take her hand as you help her out of the car, hold it walking into where you are going. If I really think about it, I can pretty much see where on first dates with someone I ended up liking, or ended up in a relationship with, we were "hand touching" for lack fo a better word on a first date. When there is an attraction there is a desire to be able to touch the other person. I dont disagree that it is intimate, even sexual in a way. I can even recall a number oif times where a girl would do some version of reading the palm/checking your love line etc as an excuse to touch your hand. When I do it, it might be something as lame as pretending to look at a piece of jewelry, then continuing contact. Or even just telling ehr she has beautiful hands and touching one with or without a may I Like I said it isnt planned, but cant think of a time it hasnt happened. Think its a natural first step for most people. But I can only go by my experience
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