My husband has opened up and said he thinks he is bisexual

[articdee]

After 10+ years of marriage, with a very good sexlife, my husband has opened up and told me is thinks he is bisexual.

He wants my permission to explore this. After lengthy discussion, he told me that this is something that is not just 'spur of the moment' but something he has strongly felt for years. He initially brought it up as an interest in 'swinging', but now it has led to him with a man, with the possiblity of me joining in. I am very confused. I have friends both gay and straight, so I am in a way open to discussing and looking at his perspective on things, but it had never occurred to me that I would be sharing my partner with someone else.

I'm not sure how to process this information, let alone determine how I actually feel about this.

[Art_Critic]

It sounds like he is just looking for your permission to cheat.. either with a guy or another girl, as bisexual guys would also swing with girls.

 

I'm sorry you have been put in this position to have to figure it all out...

 

It's a toughie.. I can you that without a doubt if my spouse said that to me I would say "explore all you want after the divorce is final", but that is me and I've always been a "your either in this relationship or your out of it" type of guy.. no middle for me..

 

Good luck.. I hope you get some answers and keep posting...

[laRubiaBonita]

yep- permission to cheat.

 

i think this revalation is BS...... should this change the vows he took with you? i do not think so.

[Ody]

Well do you feel like "joining in" as he put it?

 

If you're (quite understandably) not open to swinging, open marriages, or group sex, I don't see how it makes a big difference which gender he's after. Probably should consider this more fundamental question before you consider the bi thing.

 

If you are open to those things then you can consider whether the bi thing matters to you.