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Together for 20 years, but never married


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I recently made a female friend at a gathering, thinking she was single, I still confirmed it and asked her if she was married or not.

 

She said she wasn't married, but had been with her boyfriend longer than most people had been married, lol.

 

I think this is the first time I met someone that's been with their boyfriend for that long.

 

But considering how MOST relationships die in like 3 to 5 years...and her's lasted as long as it has.

 

I wonder what made her stay with him for so long without getting a "wandering eye" or finding the BBD? or simply getting the "itch" as most people who reach a "point" in their relationship to take it to the 2 choices

 

1. get married

2. or....break up

 

Also, since they never married, what's the motivation of staying together anymore? And what caused them NOT to break up like so many couples do after a handful of years?

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Because they like how things are. They may not be married, but they are 'common-law'. Living together, built a life together and they're happy with the arrangement.

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Some people are happy with just cohabitation. I personally am not like that, because to me marriage is the ultimate commitment you can make to someone. But if it works for them, so be it. My mom has a friend who has like 3 kids with her boyfriend of 20+ years, although I also know my mom's friend has been naively holding out for a ring (ha, like that's gonna happen). But if she's happy, then so be it. There is more than one road to happiness.

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