deekeepinitreal2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Hi I think my boyfriend is cheating but i am not completely sure yet. I have not got a way to try to catch him because i do not have a vehicle and i also do not have anyone to take me to see where he is at. Well here is the story of why I think he is cheating. He has left on several occasions like last Friday he said he was going to Kmart to pick up the rest of my Christmas and he had left home at 7 pm and he did not come back home until 5 am Saturday morning. I was mad when he came home because he did not call me or anything but I asked him where he had been all night and he told me that while he was at Kmart he had ran into his friend ( a guy ) that he has not seen in a very long time. Well he says his friend ask him to come to his house to have some drinks. He says he went over there and there was no one there but that guy and him and that they sat on the front porch for 11 hours and drank beers and slammers. That is a hard story for me to believe. He has dissapeared on several occasions like this and doesnt come home until the next day. I have even asked him to take me to meet this guy where he was at and he refuses to do so until New Years Day when they are going to have a party over there. He will not tell me where this guy lives at and the only thing that he will tell me is that this guy is a mechanic and what his name is. I am in love with my boyfriend. I dont want to find out he is cheating on me. When I ask him about it he gets real mad about it everytime. I was always told that is the guilty conscious talking. Also if i bring it up he he tells me that if i dont believe him then i might as well leave him. I really do want to believe him but it is a hard story to believe. I am about to pack up all my stuff and get out of here but i am afraid that when i do it will be true everything he told me. What im trying to say is i dont want to leave him if he really is not out there doing anything. I told him a while back that if he dissapears all night long again that i was leaving and not ever coming back. That was on a Thursday and the next day is when he left and stayed out all night supposedly with this guy. Saturday he promised me that he would never do this again and he said I was more important to him than partying is. I have tried to make love with him and everytime i do he has always got an excuse like im tired or anything that comes to his mind. I can not get this out of my head. I have been worried about this ever since it has happened. I am not sleeping well at all and he knows this but he will not discuss this problem. He seems to think that it is perfectly fine for him to do. So if someone has any answers or advice for me please let me know what to do or what you would do. This is very hurtful to me
Ophelia Rue Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 My boyfriend used to pull these "all nighters" too. I hacked onto his Myspace and found out he was definitely cheating. His excuses were: He ran into a friend he hadn't seen in forever and they got hammered and he slept on his friend's couch. His friend got pulled over for a DUI and he stayed with him in the holding cell until they got someone to bail him out. (The best one) His friend left him at the bar to hang out with a girl and he had no way to get home. (ha!) The point of these stories are, he is a liar. Who the hell goes to KMart and doesn't come back till the next day. Give him a taste of misery and just dump his ass.
ADF Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Listen, if you're sure enough he is cheating to want to following him around and spy on him, why not just confront him directly? If he cannot answer your questions in a convincing way, leave. Frankly, your boyfriend is right when he tells you leave if you don't believe him. Are you wiling to stay with him, knowing he is cheating, just becuase you couldn't prove it in court? Be realistic.
Malenfant Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 regardless of cheating, staying out all night without telling you is an awful thing to do in itself and shows a complete lack of respect for you. its a dealbreaker in itself for me. I'm definately the sort of person to give the benefit of the doubt but i'm sorry to say even to me it does sound like he is cheating.
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