Seymore Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 That is where I am at, the 6 month mark (December). Odd when I feel 'good' as Im waiting for the that wave of greif to remind me Im still out at sea. While I have done things to improve my life, I have left some things unresolved. With the pain dimming, its really time for the hard part; putting together a life Im happy living with or without anyone else. Waiting for the other shoe to drop might have a subconscious effect that is counteracting what youd like to happen - waking up without a thought of her. I found that the more I drank before I went to bed or did dumb things to myself, the more I thought of her, since I normally wouldn't have done those things. Once I did good things for myself, it helped quite a bit. I wish you the best of luck!
Zeegagge Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 It's definitely normal, experienced this after several break ups now and currently dealing with it after the most recent. I think for me it's because I spend a good part of the day coping, sorting out my thoughts and eventually coming to some sort of terms with things. But once asleep I have no control over my thoughts and my subconcious begins to take over in the form of dreams (very Freudian). Every morning when I wake up the clock has been reset and I have to start over again. Sucks.
rickigal Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 It's totally normal. You can't do anything about it until you start moving on. I am now 60 days past breakup and I hardly think about him at all! It used to be the first thought on my mind in the morning, the last before I went to sleep and in my dreams. But I have had LC with him in the past 2 months (only talked to him on email once and IM once but that reaffirmed his lack of love for me.) So I moved on. I am feeling soooooo much better now and realized that I deserve much better in a man. Time WILL heal. I promise.
grfins Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Mornings are the worst. Must force myself to get out of bed to go to work. Bad nausea and cant stop my mind from thinking of her. Meds help a bit i think but time looks like it might be the key unfortunetly
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