argann Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Just needed some outside advice. My x said she needed time and space about a month ago. She has somethings at my house. After a week of not talking I told her we needed to setup a time for her to pickup her stuff. We work together but I have to go out of my way to talk to her. She was out of town that weekend and I was out of town part of the next week and weekend. So this week I said they we need to get this done. She suggested this past Sunday last Friday. I said ok talk to you then. Sunday comes and I call her to see what time and if I needed to be here as I had errands to run. She has a key so I said she could grab and leave her key under the mat. No word back. Monday I said the phone not working...she said she didn't feel well. I said ok well this has to get take care of. She said well I fly out Wed for Thanksgiving can Saturday work? I said well you have a key and Wed is 2 days away and we should work towards that so we can enjoy thanksgiving stress free. Well...tonight almost done with so that leaves tomorrow. Partial back ground....her divorce is final in 2 weeks and she takes care of her x's kid even though its' not hers. His real mom died when he was an infant. Well we share the same phone plan as we've been dating and figured it ould be easier for down the road planning. I went to AT&T today cause I had questions on my bill. I also looked at minutes and such to make sure I wasn't going over. I noticed that today between 3-8pm she sent her x txt's pretty much every 10 minutes or so. I also know that she was the kid tonight (not that it's an excuse just detailer as much as possible). So my thoughts are if you can txt...you can get your stuff.... I really do like this girl but she needs to work through her divorce and get some stuff resolved. She's not a bad person just needs to realize that when you break it off you need to get your stuff and roll...like a job you quit...you leave...I have nothing against her and would get back together in a heart beat if we can work out our problems and work towards our mutual goals. I'm trying to do NC and have not talked to her unless she comes to me first. Which is maybe once a week and 9 out of 10 times about work. I always err on the side of cautious and give most people the benefit of the doubt because I'm super low stress. My thoughts are if she doesn't pick them up I'll take them to her house while she's gone and give them to her roommate? Thoughts? I'd like to play the you can txt for 5 hours but not get your stuff card but it shouldn't come to that. Maybe I can put it a different way? Thanks again!
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