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It's been like 2 months and a week in a half of NC and I still think about her everyday! She is obviously not thinkin about me cause of her new boyfriend. Got the new boytoy 1.5 months after our official breakup, but I feel like I'm the only one still involved in this and it makes me feel absolutely stupid. I cant seem to man up and forget her and its driving me stupid. I mean I feel better about everything, but I still think of her, I wish I could just stop. I am trying to find the cause and I think it's cause she told me how she didn't want a boyfriend after me for at least a year and she moved on so quickly. And picturing her getting F*cked by another guy, and having her look in to a guys eye the way she looked in to mine when she was happy, and her smile that got me every time just haunts me. And her crying to me that she was going to miss me so much before she left, and being there emotionally with her. I mean I almost cried with her when she said that. I feel like she just pulled a rug from under me. I mean she did wish me a happy birthday so obviously she has the conscience to do that then became official with this other guy 3 days later. But I just cant picture her being with another man, and how she changed so quickly. She was totally different when we were together than changed when she moved off. Sorry for the rant. I didn't do anything wrong in the relationship, but she forced me to break it off with her, and I felt that I did my absolute best for her and it just haunts me how my best wasn't good enough for her.

 

 

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Bob,

 

Man my mouth went dry and it was tough reading your emotions and thoughts. Whether it is admitted or not, I know most of us guys imagine the same things. I am busting my a** to improve myself and move on from my ex because if the news of what you said hit me, I would be a mess. You are not crazy and are mourning the loss. She dealt with things her way by possibly detaching sometime before the actual split, playing nice to you once she called it off to minimize her own guilt, and the of course running to some other man.

 

I'm sorry dude. Time alone will just make you dwell and eat you up liek cancer. Gotta do more to get her off of your mind and heart.

 

Hang in there,

 

J

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See I don't know when she coulda emotionally detached, cause she cried the day before she left, then we broke up 2.5 weeks later. And she drove over to my house and made love for the last time until her flight took off the next morning at 9 am. By the way, the drive is 40-45 minutes away and she did it just so she could be with me. She got in at like 11 then left at 3am and had her flight at 9am. Or if she is really cold, she just wanted to get F*cked. But when could she have emotionally detached if she did that!?!? and that is where Im confused....

 

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Emotionally detaching is kind of a trip because it doesn't mean that they don't care, miss us, get all hot and bothered, or whatever. It may or may not be completely visible to us living in a fog (my ex initiated and was a hot freak mama the DAY before our split so go figure). What happened I think is that they shut off all HOPE that whatever the issues or concerns are will be worked out. Turn off hope that you two are "the one". The love making thing sucks because it is like a goodbye. The decision is often made well before the split and their mind has been made up. Unless you literally parted the Red Sea, strolled across some water, or something else like that...it was just gonna run it's course.

 

Don't beat yourself up abut her feelings as much because you can not control them. I mean think about it..if we had the control to run other's feelings (too much responsibility) we wouldn't have chosen for them to break our hearts, etc. It was her own doing and I am sure very hard for her. Mine did th hand holding, lovey dovey stuff, and everything. Still, it was splitsville. Stay strong.

 

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Man... I just got some texts from my ex tonight about how she's never felt this way about anyone(me) ,blah,blah(she's seeing someone also). Don't think for a second your's is all easy'breezy over it! She's not! Me and mine have been done for a while and I get this shlt every few months..it's all nonsense..just be glad you don't get attempted to dive back to the BS every few months! Blessings...count them! ;)

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I don't want to dive back cause if she couldn't last longer than 2 weeks, how could she expect to go on for 2 more college years. I just wish she didn't say the things she did when nothing was going wrong within the relationship. I wish she coulda been straight with me from the get go. We were perfect together when she was in town and when she left she changed. Maybe next summer we can re-connect if she is single, who knows. She said she would call me up next summer, but in the mean time I didn't want to talk to her when she was up at school and I was down here. The first time I really talked to her was when she wished me the happy b-day then she became official with another man 3 days later.

 

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. Maybe next summer we can re-connect if she is single, who knows.

Thebob

You mean IF you, yourself, are still single. ;)
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She broke up with you. You know what that means? She handed you a license to go out every night, live it up, party until 2 in the morning, have sexual relations with as many hot chicks as you can round up in a weekend.

 

Now you get to hit the gym, focus on your career, become 10 times better and more in shape than any guy who's stuck with a nagging, depressed, wishy-washy woman.

 

Who gives a **** what she's up to. Who cares who's she's with now. That's the other losers problem. She gave you freedom. Scream it -- FREEEEDOOOOM!!! As in Braveheart.

 

Now get off your ass, stop feeling sorry for yourself and hit the gym. Start running your ass off and get in shape. Start making new friends. Be the life of the town. Practice your game with women. Who cares if you strike out.

 

You don't have to report in. You don't have to hear her constant bitching and whining. The sex was getting old anyway. So screw her, grab your balls and get back in the fish tank.

 

This is life -- infinite diversity in infinite combinations. Now go experience life and don't spend all your time strung around one woman who decided to give you a free pass so that you can get out of the sucker role that the next shmuck will have to endure. She didn't break up with you because she hates you -- she broke up with you because she loves you. She didn't want you to put up with her bull**** any longer and wants that position reserved for someone less amazing then you.

 

So get off your ass and get on the road to becoming even better than what you were. Don't post back until I hear you're banging a super-model.

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She broke up with you. You know what that means? She handed you a license to go out every night, live it up, party until 2 in the morning.

 

lol that is hilarious, I know what you mean though.

 

Now you get to hit the gym, focus on your career, become 10 times better and more in shape than any guy who's stuck with a nagging, depressed, wishy-washy woman.

 

She wasn't really naggy, she just changed, and I already workout and run all the time.

 

Who gives a **** what she's up to. Who cares who's she's with now. That's the other losers problem. She gave you freedom. Scream it -- FREEEEDOOOOM!!! As in Braveheart.

Lol hilarious again, ya it is his problem now to deal with a girl who changes her mind constantly and reverses what she says with her actions.

 

Now get off your ass, stop feeling sorry for yourself and hit the gym. Start running your ass off and get in shape. Start making new friends. Be the life of the town. Practice your game with women. Who cares if you strike out.

 

Already have been doin that so I can get this hoe off my mind.

 

You don't have to report in. You don't have to hear her constant bitching and whining. The sex was getting old anyway. So screw her, grab your balls and get back in the fish tank.

 

She really never Bitched and the sex was good but I hear ya man, you are givin great support =)

 

This is life -- infinite diversity in infinite combinations. Now go experience life and don't spend all your time strung around one woman who decided to give you a free pass so that you can get out of the sucker role that the next shmuck will have to endure. She didn't break up with you because she hates you -- she broke up with you because she loves you. She didn't want you to put up with her bull**** any longer and wants that position reserved for someone less amazing then you.

 

She broke up cause she loved me? lol that is kinda funny, but I hear ya. The next girl will be better than her in every category accept $$$$

 

So get off your ass and get on the road to becoming even better than what you were. Don't post back until I hear you're banging a super-model.

 

 

I ONLY WISH haha, I'll work on it, thanks man you been a big help

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