Author minutebyminute Posted November 27, 2009 Author Posted November 27, 2009 WOW! . . .most of your relationships were revenge based. Do you think a player does these things to woman to seek revenge toward the opposite sex due to say a bad upbringing from an abusive mother, a bad relationship, etc? Did you ever have a LTR with any of your flings? Did any of your single flings end up falling for you? How did you usually end the relationship? Were most of these women out for a good time or did you actually ever meet a lady? The reason for all the questions is to help me figure out why got taken. Thanks for your reply
Church Bells Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 mbym, All of the "belly button gazing" in the world won't help you at this point. YOU SCREWED UP ... we all have, at one point or another ... and now you are faced with the CONSEQUENCES of your own choices. Quit trying to rationalize and justify, the UNJUSTIFIABLE. OWN YOUR OWN SHI1T!!! First ... APOLOGIZE to your BH ... he may be the biggest ass in the world, but he didn't deserve to be blindsided and HUMILIATED like this, by the one he trusted most. Show him you have SOME measure of empathy for what you have put him through. Second ... APOLOGIZE to your children ... they didn't do anything to cause their family to break up, but they sure got to deal with the fallout. Show them that the true measure of character is not defined by your mistakes, but how you deal with the aftermath of those mistakes. Third ... LEARN from this ... middle-aged women, who feel neglected (whether they really are or not) are terribly naive, and are easy prey for the polished player. Women like you almost have a neon sign over their heads that reads EASY, and "players" pick up on that immediately ... see the post from 2.50 a gallon above. There are predators everywhere that are looking for NOTHING but another notch on their bedposts. In short ... you engaged in a very UGLY business and it blew up in your face. It's time to pull up your big girl panties ... remove yourself from fantasyland and rejoin the real world. It's not easy, IT'S LIFE!!!
2.50 a gallon Posted November 28, 2009 Posted November 28, 2009 It wwas only those four instances with a MW that were revenge motivated. How a few ONS did not fulfill all of my sexual needs and I did develop what I would call a wedding ring fetish for a short time. One of the resons being that MW were easy. I had a great childhood, and a great mom. It was women who made me into a player, My parents brought me up to be a nice guy, also I had the soul of a poet. Women profess that they want a man who is sensitive. Sensitive coming from a short, skinny guy comes off as wimpy and most women are looking for he-men. Wimpy does not get one laid and much less married. So, I had to make a change, I killed the nice guy poet, and I soon learned the less I cared, the more the ladies cared. Instead of looking for some one to share my life with, I went looking for some one to share my bedroom with and my sex life skyrocketed. Little did I realize the trap that I had fallen into as I found it impossible for me to maintain a monogomous LTR. U did make several attempts and was even engaged twice. The one who came away hear broken was me. I found myself divided, half of me wanted to marry the fiance and the other half never wanted to give up my lifesyle. And if I did break the heart of one of my partners, it generally did not matter, as the less I cared the more they cared.
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