DenverBachelor Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 After breaking up, after months go by and week after week of no contact, I feel like I've reached the summit. I feel like I can see so far in all directions, both past and future. All the tears and agony while making uphill progress, I feel like I am standing on the summit alone to reflect on life, my accomplishments, my faults, my unique challenges and the opportunities that await. I spent a little time getting the last tears out while at the top of this summit. In the middle of shedding them, I started to ironically laugh. Who was I to stay motionless in one place for very long? The relationship was ended, but not by me. I wanted to stick it out and go the distance. She did not. I stood there laughing, picking myself off my knees and realized something profound. Two people never really break up completely. I know this because I carry a little piece of her in my own heart. The very seed that blossomed the beautiful flower that became our year and a half relationship. I was too busy agonizing over the pain of losing her that I forgot to check that pocket in my heart. She left me a seed. It is my duty to go forward in life and take care of that seed. It is my obligation to press forward for myself and treasure the memories of what was once a beautiful relationship. And someday, I'll take that seed and plant it, and from that seed will blossom an even more beautiful and ever-lasting flower.
USMCHokie Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I like this post a lot...and I agree with everything you said...we all focus on the pain of the breakup and lose sight of everything that was good in the relationship...if it was only meant to last a year, we should be happy that that year was a good year in our life... My ex will always have a place in my heart...always...because she opened my heart up to feelings that I never experienced before...and I hope that one day I can take the proverbial seed and move on with someone else...
j_cali_man Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Denver, Man to man what you wrote was pretty wild. Not two minutes ago I responded to another post and then I read this. I am no girly man but the flippin tears just started flowing (again). You are completely spot on and those memories actually make me crack up and have some balance to this whole situation. Of course new memories will be made with someone who can and will go the distance. I too thought mine would be in it for the long haul made it just past 3 years) and I checked my pocket to find 3-4 seeds. Anyhow, am coping, living, and moving forward even if a step backwards happens from time to time. The NC is helping a lot. Cheers! J
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