Taucher Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 May 23rd 2009. I saw silic0ntoad has left a pretty similar message, but I dont feel QUITE as positive, although I am not too bad. Was dreading today really, but after work I had my first 2 hour Badminton coaching session with a very good friend of mine. I havent enjoyed myself so much in ages, and apparantly I was pretty god for a first timer (sorry, boasting). The thing that I have learnt is that execise, for me at least, is the single best thing to stop me thinking of my ex. Actually, I still think about her but I am so happy I dont care nearly as much. Must be the endorphines. Overall though, its been a long ride and I am annoyed with myself that I am not recovered from the break up more. The last two weeks or so have got harder for me...but still not as bad as in the first two months. I was going to write more about what I am thinking/feeling (not assuming that anyone's interested but writing it down helps!) but I am too tired now to think and I just wanted to mark the actual day, which has 6 minutes left. Still, I remember thinking that time moved so slow at the beginning but now, I am glad to make the six month mark. Take care. T
soheartbroken Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Thanks for posting Taucher. I remember seeing some of your earlier posts. Glad you have found something to ease the pain. Try not to be annoyed with yourself. You're doing fine, moving at your own pace. For every day you spend NOT denying your pain, you're moving through it. Would you want it to suddenly go away, only to reappear later under a different guise? Don't rush it. Keep doing what you're doing. Try not to compare yourself to others (if you do do that, I'm not saying you do). Every person and relationship is a bit different. Keep us updated.
j_cali_man Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 That is awesome that you made it through and I agree the first couple of months are the hardest (I am living and feeling it now). Since this is an "anniversary" of sorts for you, how has the meeting new people thing been going? Could actually be a reason to be upbeat because of new possibilities which may not come together for a few more months...but the seeds may be planted now. J
JaggedRoad Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Yeah, there's no need to rush anything. Remember that you live for yourself now, so you have no one to answer to. Glad you made it =) I'm nearly 2 months away from the 6 month mark.
GrayClouds Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Must be the endorphines. My current drug of choice... that and heroin Kidding about the heroin .
mickleb Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Hey Tauch I'm really glad to see how strong you're sounding. I have to admit, I clicked on this thread thinking, oh poor ol' Tauch - he's having a bad night but NO! You are sounding really good! I think you're doing super-well and I can see your progress is really coming on now. Here's to you and your endorphin rush! x
HeavenOrHell Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 He left me 4 months today, although said he was leaving 2 weeks earlier, lived together 2 weeks more while he found somewhere to live.
angelface78 Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Taucher you are one of the people that started along side of me. I am 5 months since the breakup now and 50 days NC. I am very proud of us for getting through the worst. I know there will be tough days ahead at times. But we are going to be ok. No worries. Congratulations my friend and keep looking forward...NEVER LOOK BACK!!!
jlr Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I know how you feel. I just passed the 1 year mark a few weeks back. It's still rough, but much easier than at the start. What a process this all is...
Author Taucher Posted November 24, 2009 Author Posted November 24, 2009 Hey Tauch I'm really glad to see how strong you're sounding. I have to admit, I clicked on this thread thinking, oh poor ol' Tauch - he's having a bad night but NO! You are sounding really good! I think you're doing super-well and I can see your progress is really coming on now. Here's to you and your endorphin rush! x Thank you very much mickleb. I suppose I am doing ok really. I try to force myself to remember what it was like earlier on, and it is much better. I think I am becoming addicted to endorphines, is that bad? Prob not. And thanks for being so positive Taucher, how long NC? Well, officially I have made no attempt to speak to her since September 6th and had not heard from her at all until she saw me last week and shouted my name across a road 3 times until I turned around. We spoke very briefly, I moved on. I dont consider that to be breaking NC although it would be better if it hadn't happened. So NC is about 80 days. Not written that down before. Not too bad,... Taucher you are one of the people that started along side of me. I am 5 months since the breakup now and 50 days NC. I am very proud of us for getting through the worst. I know there will be tough days ahead at times. But we are going to be ok. No worries. Congratulations my friend and keep looking forward...NEVER LOOK BACK!!! Thank you. Yes, we are both doing OK. Maybe better than OK, who knows? It's hard to tell. But thanks for replying. Seeing people on here at the same stage going through the same thing has helped so much, although I wish that none of you were going through all this. I sometimes think that people on here are the strong ones. Unafraid to admit to feelings and to talk about it. We are the best dumpees in THE WORLD. I know how you feel. I just passed the 1 year mark a few weeks back. It's still rough, but much easier than at the start. What a process this all is... 1 year eh? That must feel strange. I can imagine that an anniversary like that can make you feel a bit worse for a while? It IS a process though, and you are doing great. Take care everyone. And thanks to all for replying. Really does mean a lot. T
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