Are the average or below average couples really physically attracted to each other?

[always_searching]

I would like to think that all the memories of their lifetime from when they were both young and energetic just stick with them through the years and keep the attraction there at the surface level.

 

LOL, LoneSock, it wasn't a genuine question/concern of mine.

 

I was trying to indicate the irony of asking such superficial questions...

 

However, I like to think that they find pleasure and revel in each other's wrinkly bodies--sucking on loose skin and such. That's what I want from my sex life in 60 years!

[TheLoneSock]

LOL, LoneSock, it wasn't a genuine question/concern of mine.

 

I was trying to indicate the irony of asking such superficial questions...

 

However, I like to think that they find pleasure and revel in each other's wrinkly bodies--sucking on loose skin and such. That's what I want from my sex life in 60 years!

 

Yeah, I caught your sarcasm but I went with it anyway lol.

 

Gross... I mean I knew you liked older guys but...

[PinkToes]

I never said i dont talk to ugly people the posters is makign it up i said i get a different feeling from talking to good looking men then i do average or ugly guys even if its not on a sexual level i like being around good lookign men

 

So if you happened to fall in love with a really hot guy, and then he went bald and gained 50 pounds, would you leave?

[NopeNah]

I welcome the haters

 

Im guessing its ugly people whove come to this thread all defenisve and want to act like looks shouldnt be important......Sorry

whoops..wrong! You post a pic and I'll do the same..how's that? i'm off to watch football with some lovely ladies..look forward to seeing your pic when I return.

[kiss_andmakeup]

Just because women have celebrity crushes or fantasies (which, while I certainly find certain celebs attractive, I haven't considered one a "crush" or "fantasy" since my teen years), doesn't mean they expect a normal relationship to carry that kind of teeny-bopper dreamboat physical attraction. That's exactly what a "crush" is and a crush is not a relationship. An adult relationship is more complex than that.

 

There have been instances where I have dated "average" looking men but depending on certain aspects, I became highly attracted to them. For example, I was a music major in college, and one was very average looking (not unattractive but nothing special) but a superbly talented musician. That made him the hottest thing since sliced bread to me. Or an ex of mine who was relatively average looking, but had a warm and caring personality, was fantastic in the sack, and had a great sense of humour.

 

As for two truly unattractive people who are together, I would assume what I said above is more so. They probably have an even greater ability to look within and find each other's good qualities, which is a great thing.

 

Most compassionate, good, and well-adjusted people will find someone with good emotional/social/mental qualities more attractive as they get to know them.

[thegreatmoose]

I simply speak the truth and allot of people are afraid of it quite frankly

You seem to back up that "truth" only by what your friends say. Most people on here disagree at least somewhat.

[thegreatmoose]

I never said i dont talk to ugly people the posters is makign it up i said i get a different feeling from talking to good looking men then i do average or ugly guys even if its not on a sexual level i like being around good lookign men

You said this in a reply to me awhile back in one of your threads.

 

"Not really unless therye attractive,i really dont even like to be around non attractive men"

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2479050#post2479050

 

If you don't even want to be around non attractive men, there's no way you can be talking to them.

[justforfun]

 

As for two truly unattractive people who are together, I would assume what I said above is more so. They probably have an even greater ability to look within and find each other's good qualities, which is a great thing.

 

You're kidding right? Please tell me you're kidding.

[justforfun]

Sure thing! It's the internet! post a pic then miss "above average"..be sure to add todays date and a piece of paper with MeganDoll written on it. Until then you're 5'2 265 and as flat as a board.

 

...and a man.

[deux ex machina]

Whenever you see two blah looking people or unpleasntl looking people together i always wonder if theyres something in your head where if youre a 4 then a 4 of the oppsoite sex looks ok to you and doesnt look as bad to you as say somebody good looking who has options and would never look at the 4

 

Or do these people in their head say i cant do any better then this person physically and even do he or she does nothing for me on a physical level id rather be with a person im not attratced to then die alone

 

 

It fasicnates me because i cant imagine being with someobdy the rest of your life who does nothing for you at all on a physical level but i guess some people have no choice

 

Uh. Wow.

[kiss_andmakeup]

You're kidding right? Please tell me you're kidding.

 

I'm not kidding at all. I stated that if I date someone average looking and they have other great qualities, I see those good qualities and come to find them more attractive. I would assume it's that way for many people, no matter the degree of attractiveness.

[Thornton]

Than you nobody wants to date down in looks unless moneys involved

 

If u date down in looks your gonna say to yourself i can find someody just as good as you as a person but better looking so why am i settling?

 

I wouldn't put it quite as harshly as that. It's true that people look for some sort of equality in relationships, whether it's purely in terms of looks or whether it also includes other factors such as personality and intelligence and wealth etc. It's not all about looks and wealth though, as you suggested... for example an attractive woman might date a less attractive and non-wealthy man because he's caring and kind and fun to be around.

 

The problem with what you suggested is that it doesn't value people as individuals... if you really like someone then you can't find someone just as good but better looking... that person is an individual and there's nobody else quite like them. If you go for someone better looking you may have to settle for less of another attribute such as kindness or sense of humour. Seeing people as interchangeable and replaceable is one of the big problems with dating nowadays

[Yamaha]

...and a man.

 

This gets my vote.:bunny:

[kiss_andmakeup]

The problem with what you suggested is that it doesn't value people as individuals... if you really like someone then you can't find someone just as good but better looking... that person is an individual and there's nobody else quite like them.

 

This is spot on. Are there men out there that are more physically attractive than my boyfriend? Yes. Could I date someone physically better looking than him? Possibly. Do I want to? Hell no. When you are in love with someone, they become so special and individual, you are more attracted to them than even a movie star or model.

 

I feel sad for the OP if you haven't experienced this.

[Lizzie60]

Humm.. strange thread.. I thought you were like 15-16... anyway... people are born with the face they have.. they see that same face every morning.. and they get used to it..

 

Does an average/below average thinks s/he's hot.. nope.. does s/he thinks s/he's OK.. yes.

 

I see that all the time, in real life..and here.. people post their picture.. some people will tell them how 'hot' they look.. when, in fact, they are just average and some even below average, but they honestly think they're hot.. and take the 'compliment' as real and sincere (ha-hem)

 

People don't see themselves the same way others see them.. why? because they are used to 'that' face.. the only one they have..

 

We sometimes see 'ugly' people (according to our standards) with amazingly beautiful people.. beauty is in the eye of the 'beerholder' .. beauty is subjective..

[always_searching]

Humm.. strange thread.. I thought you were like 15-16... anyway... people are born with the face they have.. they see that same face every morning.. and they get used to it..

 

Does an average/below average thinks s/he's hot.. nope.. does s/he thinks s/he's OK.. yes.

 

I see that all the time, in real life..and here.. people post their picture.. some people will tell them how 'hot' they look.. when, in fact, they are just average and some even below average, but they honestly think they're hot.. and take the 'compliment' as real and sincere (ha-hem)

 

People don't see themselves the same way others see them.. why? because they are used to 'that' face.. the only one they have..

 

We sometimes see 'ugly' people (according to our standards) with amazingly beautiful people.. beauty is in the eye of the 'beerholder' .. beauty is subjective..

 

Well Lizzie, if beauty is so subjective, I wonder how you are determining that the people who post comments telling other posters (who have their real photo as their avatar) that they are attractive are NOT actually complimenting them and being sincere?

 

As far as your other comments, I agree that beauty is subjective as much more plays into our attraction to other individual persons than just physical attributes viz. his/her appearance.

[Sam Spade]

Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Carie Prejean, and Megan Doll are all (supposedly) very attractive, but their grating personalities cause my penis and my bollocks to retreat in panic in my stomach and refuse to come out until the hazmat team disposes of those toxic hos.

 

On the other hand, my goofy, average, regular gf is causing me a raging boner.

 

There.

[Lizzie60]

Well Lizzie, if beauty is so subjective, I wonder how you are determining that the people who post comments telling other posters (who have their real photo as their avatar) that they are attractive are NOT actually complimenting them and being sincere?

 

As far as your other comments, I agree that beauty is subjective as much more plays into our attraction to other individual persons than just physical attributes viz. his/her appearance.

 

Ohhh.. trust me .. I've been here long enough to 'know' about the LS sincerity... and it's not just on the appearance..

 

When I see an 'average/below average' (according to me of course and others) posting his/her picture and being showered with compliments.. come on.. just because a poster is popular and thinks s/he's beautiful .. it doesn't make him/her 'beautiful'.. his/her posts can make him/her popular.. but beautiful... I don't thinkn so.

[justforfun]

I'm not kidding at all. I stated that if I date someone average looking and they have other great qualities, I see those good qualities and come to find them more attractive. I would assume it's that way for many people, no matter the degree of attractiveness.

 

No..this is what you said:

 

 

As for two truly unattractive people who are together....they probably have an even greater ability to look within and find each other's good qualities, which is a great thing.

 

:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

That's the bit I was gobsmacked about.

[PinkToes]

Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Carie Prejean, and Megan Doll are all (supposedly) very attractive, but their grating personalities cause my penis and my bollocks to retreat in panic in my stomach and refuse to come out until the hazmat team disposes of those toxic hos.

 

On the other hand, my goofy, average, regular gf is causing me a raging boner.

 

There.

 

Well said.

 

Although your relationship with the average regular gf is obviously doomed to fail; you know that, right?

[always_searching]

Ohhh.. trust me .. I've been here long enough to 'know' about the LS sincerity... and it's not just on the appearance..

 

When I see an 'average/below average' (according to me of course and others) posting his/her picture and being showered with compliments.. come on.. just because a poster is popular and thinks s/he's beautiful .. it doesn't make him/her 'beautiful'.. his/her posts can make him/her popular.. but beautiful... I don't thinkn so.

 

Well, then, Lizzie, I'd say that you are implying that beauty is indeed objective if popularity (which could be subjectively attractive to some) is not an indication of any sort of beauty.

 

Regardless, I'm thinking all the 's indicate your strong feelings on this matter...

 

I am curious as to see an example. You've been here awhile: can you think of a poster who is no longer here (we wouldn't want to offend anyone, I'm sure) whose picture is still up that you categorize in this manner viz. a person who is popular, showered with compliments, yet is unattractive?

[thegreatmoose]

Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Carie Prejean, and Megan Doll are all (supposedly) very attractive, but their grating personalities cause my penis and my bollocks to retreat in panic in my stomach and refuse to come out until the hazmat team disposes of those toxic hos.

 

On the other hand, my goofy, average, regular gf is causing me a raging boner.

 

There.

When it comes to maturity, they are all at about 15.

[always_searching]

Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Carie Prejean, and Megan Doll are all (supposedly) very attractive, but their grating personalities cause my penis and my bollocks to retreat in panic in my stomach and refuse to come out until the hazmat team disposes of those toxic hos.

 

On the other hand, my goofy, average, regular gf is causing me a raging boner.

 

There.

 

I hope your girlfriend knows how lucky she is...

[NopeNah]

...and a man.

Right!?...and bummer! No pics of this self-proclaimed bombshell..

[always_searching]

Right!?...and bummer! No pics of this self-proclaimed bombshell..

 

I don't know, I'd be pretty impressed if Megan posted a picture of herself and she turned out to indeed be a 5'6", 115 lbs...man..with big boobs.

 

I'd think that was pretty hot.