Arizonaheart Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Will attempt to keep this short although it may not be easy. I am in a LDR w/my grade school sweetheart. We got reacquinted in March of this year, solidified our decision to go forward w/a relationship in May during my visit to his home. I knew immediately back in March that this is the man for me, he stated the same about me. He lives 1800 miles away. Coincidentally he has a close friend who lives just about a mile from me, this friend is married. A month or so after we began communicating (April) his friend's wife was visiting a girlfriend of hers near my SO. Because they knew each other for many years he met up with his friend's wife & her gf. I recently found out that his friend's wife & him shared a romantic kiss. It was verified that she initiated the kiss & he was the one who ended it but it did linger. Between the time the kiss took place & I learned of it, I became friends with this woman & her hubby since they live close to me. There were things that she has relayed to me that would set off the uncomfortable intuitive feel. She would call & text my SO a little to often for (my) comfort & taste. She'd also send pics of herself (my SO provided this info even before the discovery). In my mind I am concluding that she is one of those women that need to feel validated by exalting herself (she recently lost a lot of weight) Anyways...I attempted to pack away those uncomfortable feelings only to realize that they were there for a reason all along. I did confront them both (my SO & this woman). He admitted it, told me the details & apologized. She said it was nothing more than a good night kiss, basically made light of it. It has been about 6 wks since this "discovery" My question to you all...My SO is coming to visit soon. Before this discovery we had discussed getting together with his friend & wife to celebrate NYE. Quite honestly I am still dealing with these emotions. On one hand I think it was just a kiss but I am also guilty of over-analyzing. Am I over reacting? Is it justifiable for me not to get together with this woman & her hubby? My SO understands and is willing to bypass our original plans. BTW this woman's hubby (my SO's friend) is not aware of the kiss. P.S In the past months I had gone out dancing w/this friend. She had also kissed a couple men after a few drinks on different occasions. I have not socialized with her sonce my discovery.
Bryanp Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 One way to make sure this goes no further is to contact this woman's husband and give him all the information about her activities.
road Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Expose this affair to the OWH. NC must between the OW and your BF. Why does BF live 1800 miles away? I would say move there to keep them apart. Though the best advice is to expose OWH and dump your BF. He is not marriage material. Time has shown they cheat before they marry they cheat after too.
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