amirpc Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 So I'm casually dating 3-4 different women, I've gone on 2 dates with all of them, 3 dates with two of them. I am NOT being a sleaze bag, have not slept with any of them, and am not lying to anyone - so please don't get hung up on this point. If you start really falling for one of them (Lets call her Mary), as in YOU are very attracted to her and she seems to reciprocate, what is the etiquette here in regards to the other girls? There is nothing formalized, nothing has been verbalized about any sort of relationship - and there is no "understanding." Is it black and white, ie I'm clearly very interested in one of them (Mary) and by continuing to entertain other women while I'm very interested in Mary - even though nothing has been verbalized - I'm implicitly using or misleading some or perhaps all parties? Or is this a grey area? Since the woman I'm very interested in may not reciprocate the feelings to the same degree (and indeed may be casually dating herself) - there is nothing wrong with casually dating until a relationship evolves (assuming no deception is involved). Anyhow the reason I ask this question is not to have a philosophical discussion, it is because I just went on my third date and had a little make out session with Mary, whom I'm very interested in - but I know I'm scheduled for a couple other casual dates dinner during the week. I've also received text messages from another, who I'd say I'm mildly interested in (but not crazy about at this point, like I am with Mary). My current plan of action is to go on the dates with the other girls, give them a chance and be a generally upstanding guy - but invite Mary out for a fairly romantic/intimate date sometime this week and see if my feelings are being reciprocated. Is that...right? I feel silly asking this, but this is all very new to me. I basically want to do the right thing, not hurt anyone, and get my shot with Mary. I'd really appreciate any constructive advice. Also - yes I realize I'm likely over analyzing this to an absurd level, but it is part of my personality to do so - I don't fight it anymore So whats the right move here?
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