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By IhavenoFREAKINclue
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I highly recommend this book for you , it is about having an "Affair with your Spouse"... http://www.amazon.com/Kosher-Adultery-Seduce-Your-Spouse/dp/1580627927/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1259038567&sr=8-1 I understand where you are coming from in some ways. I have one of those wonderful- laid back- sweet- ever faithful- do everything for me -husbands also, and I think sometimes us wives can take that for granted. In fact, it is very very easy to take this for granted, when they do nothing wayward to give us any reason to feel "jealousy" over them if that makes any sense.

 

I have been married for 20 yrs, and honest to God, I never once felt a "pang" of jealously over my husband cause he never gave me a reason too!!! (Until I allowed him the joy of going to a Stripper Club -me by his side and seeing how he enjoyed going back for a Lap dance!) --some jealousy rose up then and maybe crazy to say this, but it was GOOD! I know he still loves me, I am his queen, but seeing the interaction between my quiet faithful man & another woman --just did wonders for ME. So I have found that feeling some jealousy over your man --helps you WANT HIM MORE.

 

ONe suggestion in this book -this was mainly for men to regain attraction to their wives, but could go both ways I suppose--go to a bar but arrive separately and WATCH the interacton that goes on between your man & Other women, and see if jealousy & desire rises up within you. Knowing another woman can WANT & TAKE your man can do wonders for your failing desire for him. You say you do NOT want to loose him-you feel hurt over that thought, so you have enough to work with to get back to what you once had.

 

One thing I found that helped me fall in love all over again--taking the time to do a Picture "MOvie Maker" video of us & our history together on my computer -with our favorite love songs, pictures of JUST US taking through the years since before our marraige, our wedding until now & playing it all back. WOW, what that did for ME was amazing, the flood of wonderful memories, how we have always been there for each other. All those feelings from yesterday rose back up within me and have been going strong ever since.

 

These kind of men are almost impossible to find, I have enough single friends to know the heartbreak of what they deal with . My husband is NOT a ball of fire & even I sometimes do wish for more things like "dirty talk" or more eroticism from him, but he has the Intimacy, the Affection, the Sensual love thing going quite strong, so God help me to dare complain or wish for another.

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Everybody here is telling you to work on your marriage but let me cut to the chase. You should do him a favor and divorce him. Sooner or later this is where this marriage is headed so just rip the bandage off and get it over with as quickly as possible. After you get divorced do men everywhere a favor and stay single or at the very least stick to dating players who would deserve this kind of treatment because you will just keep up this pattern over and over again. Just be fair and let him come out of the divoce in one piece. If you don't divorce him now there is an affair in the future for you.

 

No man will ever be enough to satisy you because you are incapable of being content in a relationship. It seems like you are just waiting for him to do something wrong so you can be mad at him and cause drama which you mistake for passion. Just be honest with yourself and admit you are not built for marriage. Do this man a favor and let him out of this trainwreck while he can still rebuild himself.

Sam Spade Established Member

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Everybody here is telling you to work on your marriage but let me cut to the chase. You should do him a favor and divorce him. Sooner or later this is where this marriage is headed so just rip the bandage off and get it over with as quickly as possible. After you get divorced do men everywhere a favor and stay single or at the very least stick to dating players who would deserve this kind of treatment because you will just keep up this pattern over and over again. Just be fair and let him come out of the divoce in one piece. If you don't divorce him now there is an affair in the future for you.

 

No man will ever be enough to satisy you because you are incapable of being content in a relationship. It seems like you are just waiting for him to do something wrong so you can be mad at him and cause drama which you mistake for passion. Just be honest with yourself and admit you are not built for marriage. Do this man a favor and let him out of this trainwreck while he can still rebuild himself.

 

Wiseguy woogle tells it like it is - as usual :cool:.

 

You are only paying lip service to working on your relationship, while in fact you exhibit an extreme case of the all too common pattern of female entitlement. There is nothing wrong in your marriage. You just feel that you *should* be happier. And it is your husband's fault :rolleyes:.

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