LostInLA Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Obviously break ups are a huge blow to one's ego. However, I've always struggled with being insecure about my looks for more than half my life. My break up this year brought up this insecurity again and I'm trying really, really hard to overcome this one thing that I feel holds me back in a lot of ways. Just to give some insight, I feel I'm decent looking in every way except that I have facial scars. I do try to realize the positives about my looks - I look young for my age (I'm 34 but look about 28, I've been told), I'm half Asian so I'm exotic looking, I'm not fat, I'm of average height, I've been told I have a great smile and "light up a room," yet I am fixated on the fact that I have acne scars on my face. I feel that this imperfection overshadows everything else about my looks and that it's probably the first thing that people notice about me. If I think about it too much, it really gets me down. I feel that I don't even look "normal" because of this. Does anyone have any tips to help me overcome this and get more confidence? And, I know beauty comes from within and is in the eye of the beholder, but this insecurity has weighed me down for the majority of my life and I wish I could look in a mirror and be happy with what I see instead of struggling with ignoring my scars. Thank you.
Bulldozed Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I can empathize with you. I hair transplants done years ago before it was really perfected to today's standard. Bottom line, my hair is still disappearing, with the exception on the transplants. It looks odd, but thankfully, in my case I'm taller than most people. I try to make my personality and confidence take over, and over time, consciously it not an issue. That being said, my only advice is to recognize your qualities, as it sounds like you have quite a few memorable things that allow people to gravitate to you. Inner beauty is crucial, but a strong (I don't give ****) attitude about our own appearance (at least those things we can't change) will tend to more than overcompensate for what you may feel is an obstacle? If someone judges based on appearance, then the person is clearly shallow and not someone you want to be with, period. Play up your strengths and you'll be fine long term! One of my exgf's mother, years ago told me she always concerned about her weight (she was quite heavy)....that was until she met a woman without any legs. Play up your strengths and you'll be fine long term!
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