Confused5433 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I have everything to be grateful for, a job, house (parent's house share it with my brother), financial stability, great family and friends, health and just a peaceful life. Deep down, I just feel so restless. Recently turned 28, no bf for over 3yrs. Friends around me are getting engaged, married, having babies, and I'm still here. Haven't dated since my last bf. Sometimes I feel like leaving this city, moving and starting a whole new life somewhere else. I'm a very active person and love to do adventurous things and try different things. But lately my mood and energy has gone down and I feel so left out, lonely (yes I'll admit) and just like I should be somewhere else doing other things before my 20s pass me by. I also want to get away from my family. They are great and I love them, but I want to be on my own just experiencing other people and relationships for a while. And on top of this feeling of how life is running by so quickly, I found a couple of grays here and there. My God, I feel so young at heart, but I'm getting old. I know it happens to all of us, but I'm still in my 20s and when I look in the mirror is like I'm changing and I shouldn't be, not yet at least. If anyone has been in this sort of situation, I would greatly appreciate any type of advice, or just plain all encouragement to change my way of thinking and just get over this rut. can anyone relate? I think this is what they call a quarter life crisis...right? 1
lemeng Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 i think i got it worse then you, i am 25 years old i have a great job and a good apartment, just got a new car and i am dieing to get married. i was in a very complicated relationship with an older woman. i want to do the same things as you: starting fresh in a new place, meeting new women, etc etc. i am working on my self to become batter, it takes time but i will achieve my goals. be patient if you want to move forward with your life, make sure that this is what you really want and go with it life is too short.
Wiriest Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 It sounds like what I went through just recently, and that I think I might be on my way out I'm sorta on the uphill now, so maybe it'll help to know that it's pretty common. I think moving would be the best thing. It forces you to have to deal with random people like landlords, neighbors, coworkers, etc.. and in that mix you might end up finding someone who knows
josie54 Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 As someone on the "other side," so to speak, I strongly encourage you to take action NOW and go where life is pulling you to go. I had those same feelings in my 20s and I did not act on them. This year I'm FORTY and I'm still in the same city, doing the same thing, with the same people, and not terribly happy about it. And now that I'm 40, I have more keeping me here (a relationship, possessions, etc.) so moving is harder. I still COULD do it, but because of all the stress and upheaval that's entailed, I very well may not. In my 20's, I was pretty free of all that. The only thing that held me here was fear, and that should not be the reason you fail to act on your dreams. Your 20's is the time to do it. Don't wait until you're 40--believe me, it's a whole different perspective to look back and wish you had, rather than to still be looking forward and knowing you can.
McGrupp Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 im feeling the same way. recently broke up, need a change, but i believe the fear and uncetainty is holding me back. i always planned to see the world with her and now, well im afraid to travela nd share these things without someone else there.
Canuck1979 Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I'm 30 and have been in a very happy relationship for the last five years. Don't feel the need to get married and have babies just because your friends are doing it.
Miko Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Sounds like a QL crisis to me. I've been smack in the middle of one for a bit now. It's kindof a wakeup call. You need to take care of your body, find some more friends, maybe younger ones if you want, find some new things to do that you enjoy. I'm your age and have made new friends some of which are about 24 and it helps keep me on my toes. Look at it as being 18 all over again but make sure you take care of yourself. Eat well, dress well, workout, that's the kind of stuff that makes someone our age happy. I'm still working on that but now I know that that's what I need. If you can be 28 and carry around the extra wisdom that comes with it, and still have fun like you're 18 you'll be on your way. Also, remember we should be happy on our own before we can expect to bring someone else into our lives so get to it!!!
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