Taucher Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 And this is bothering me a bit. Out of all my closest friends I am the ONLY single one. Funny thing is, I was always the one in a relationship. In my mid twenties, most of my friends were single. I have only been single for 5 months in 10 years. Even someone who was ALWAYS single (through choice) has moved in with his GF. So, my oppurtunities for socialising and meeting new people has kind of stopped. And if I am ever in a frame of mind that I might want to start dating again, how would I meet someone? My friends dont want to go out so much and when they do, it's to a pub in our groupd not really speaking to anyone new. As I said, it's bothering me.
name witheld Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 Similar with me. I only have one friend who is single. The rest are either married/engaged or in long term. Can be disheartening at times but the important thing is to get yourself out. Even just to local pub is better than staying in by yourself. Suggest going somewhere different for a change one night. Make new friends by trying new activities (sports/martial arts/gym etc) and go out with them when you're old friends stay in. Go out with people from work. Nothing to stop you chatting to people outside you're group when you are in the pub!
USMCHokie Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 I have only been single for 5 months in 10 years. Maybe this last breakup was a blessing in disguise...? It seems like you've never really experienced life completely on your own...and you never developed that ability to create a social circle out of nothing...? Or just being comfortable going out and doing things on your own...? My oppurtunities for socialising and meeting new people has kind of stopped. This is crap...I think you may have relied on your past relationships or your group of then-single friends to find opportunities to socialize...when you find yourself in the position you're in, you have to create those social opportunities...as name_withheld said, get out and join activity groups that share your interests...go to the local pub without the intention of picking up a date...just go...if you don't meet new people, so be it...if you do, great... The point is, you can't sit around and hope that new people will suddenly want to be your friend...and maybe this is your chance to get out there and do it on your own...
name witheld Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 yeah there is a couple of times i have gone to the pub myself, albeit I knew there would be people in there i know. Also some nights out I have lost other people or been last one out but that is a really good way to start talking to women! Best in groups of 2, maybe three but I have pulled many women just by myself. Also as USMC says, there doesn not need to be an intention. Just strike up a conversation with a random - make it with an unattractive women even. Just gives you a bit of practise of talking to women again and being comfortable around them. That is really important.
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