Pentel Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 ok so heres my story: my ex told me she still loved me, she wanted to come back with me, but she needed time, she told me she didn't want to talk to me for like 1 month, i told her that was a bad idea, because then we would make more distance between us, and she said "ok well talk a little bit" and the next day we where together but im a jelous person, and i saw her with this guy in our classroom really close, and i got mad, then she got mad and she told me she didnt want to come back, that afternoon she said she only said it because she was mad, and that she did wanted to come back with me, and the next day we were ok, i tried to control my jelousy, she tried not to get too close to the guy (but she did a little bit) and it all went great, the next day we where telling each other "i love you" and stuff like that, but then we went to this school thing, and suddenly she got mad and told me if we didnt get back together she wouldnt mind and stuff like that and now she believes we can actually get back together everytime we are only her and me, we are sooofck good, we kiss, we hug, we tell each other "i love you" but as soon as we are at school or another thing, everything goes to hell...
name witheld Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 She wants to see other people but is scared of being on her own. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. Well thats not true, you can either make it worse or not make it worse. But thats about it. Sorry.
j_cali_man Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Dude, She is totally playing mind games with you because she does not want to be alone. As soon as the guy you saw (or others you don't know about) gets her feeling the butterflies, she will get "mad" at you (for being jealous, clingy, etc) and cut it off. So, you need to create value for YOURSELF and cut her off cold turkey. You cannot control if she goes with some other dude. Right now, you are pushing her FASTER to some other dude. Your options are few so NC gives you the most control of yourself, your emotions, and sends her a message that you are not her fool. She can toss out the others...or sample them and leave for good...or sample and then try to run back to you. All of those options are HERS though. So NC immediately. Messing with other guys when you are nearby is BAD. Ship is sinking. You are in the band still playing tunes. Get in a lifeboat and start rowing. NC!!! J
Author Pentel Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 the guy at my classroom has a gf tho, and she keeps telling me she loves me but she needs some time alone to be with her friends and with herself
Author Pentel Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 she tells me she feels something for me, but she doesnt want anything right now, she says she "thinks" she wants to come back, but not right now
DenverBachelor Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 she tells me she feels something for me, but she doesnt want anything right now, she says she "thinks" she wants to come back, but not right now Put yourself in her shoes for a minute. If you loved her and really loved her, would you say that stuff? No! Now let's pretend you have low self-esteem and/or dependency issues that caused you great fear of being alone, but you didn't really love her that much while you had a pool of other people to check out. What would you say then? Sorry, man. That's just women and life. Time to move on.
medusas Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Sorry, man. That's just women and life. Time to move on. I was with you until you said "That's just women". That's not true. That's just SOME PEOPLE. Comments like this reveal a transparent bitterness.
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