4am mysterious phone call from ex.

[ditched]

So , I posted a few days ago about my first date since my breakup and how I was feeling kinda guilty about it. Again, broken up since June. NC since July besides a random bump-in, back in September (while she was on a "date" nonetheless). So last night at 4:30am, my phone rings, and it's my ex's number. I answer, and there is no response. No anything. Hello? Hello? Nothing. So I just hang up. I didn’t call back. I didn’t text back. I just hung up.

 

I keep trying to tell myself it was an accident or something. She didn’t mean to dial my number. But in the two years I’ve known her, she has not once accidentally dialed my number. What are the chances of this happening days after my FIRST date since we broke up? I didn’t announce it on myspace or facebook or anything. My ex is from a city an hour away and doesn’t roll with any of the same circles as I do. There is absolutely NO way for her to know I was out on a date. But yet, I get some bizarre call at 430 am.

 

I want so much to be back with this girl but, I can’t let myself turn this tiny thing into some sort of ill-conceived scrap of hope. Did she want to talk but changed her mind at the last second? Did she want to leave me a voice-mail and was caught off guard when i answered? Or was it was an accident, while her phone was in her purse and she was making out with some schlepp. I mean, if she really wanted to talk to me, she’d just call me…right? Eff.

[HeavenOrHell]

No-one is going to know the answer to this, sorry It could have been her and maybe she wanted to leave a message, it could equally have been she was phoning the wrong number, or that the phone was in her pocket or somewhere where she accidentally pressed your contact details.

The only way you'll know is if you ask her did you mean to phone the other night/morning....

[ditched]

i guess what i wonder is that...well is it worth breaking a couple months of NC just to see how this could've happened????

 

but i know the answer to that question.

meh.

[mickleb]

No-one is going to know the answer to this, sorry It could have been her and maybe she wanted to leave a message, it could equally have been she was phoning the wrong number, or that the phone was in her pocket or somewhere where she accidentally pressed your contact details.

The only way you'll know is if you ask her did you mean to phone the other night/morning....

 

That's not the only way you'll know.

 

You can see if she tries to contact you again. If she has anything important to say to you, she'll find a way.

 

She may well have been drunk to even think about calling you at that time. We all feel quite differently, if we're awake at 4am, to how we feel at 12 noon the next day.

 

She may have wanted to know you care about her just because she was feeling lonely. Well, someone created that situation, didn't they? So until they've decided that was the dunmbest thing they've ever done and fight tooth and nail to reverse it, why let it screw up the good work you've been putting into you healing?

 

I think it demonstrates selfishness. She would've known this would screw with you but didn't have the self-control to care.

 

Take care. x

[selena_cat]

Rule of breakup and coping,this is what i've learned,whenever the ex starts to contact you,hey are just checking in,really. Of course they miss you,so they are going to see how you are doing,check out Nuala's post Alternative option to NC,i think its in Second chances,it has so many replies,so it will tell you everything you or everyone's going thru.

Now i may be wrong,i don't know everything:)

but if someone wants to reconcile with you,especialy if they did the dumping,nothing will stop them from breaking down your door. keep posting and let us know what happens.