oldladynewbaby Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 Ok It is my first post Hi all! I have been separated 6 months,after I caught my husband cheating with my daughters best friends mother- whew! Anyoo we had been together 19 years and we have a 9 year old daughter and a baby under one. When I got out of the hospital I caught them together (they wanted to get caught) and since then they have moved in together. My daughter is devestaed her friends mom left her kids to go and live with my husband. She was my close friend too. My husband falsely accused me of assault (saying I slapped him across the face). When in a moment of weakness I called him he called the cops and had me arrested cause it says on my bail I cant talk to him. yesterday I talked to him and he told me he hated me the look of me the sound of me he hates everything about me- how can this be when we were best friends for 19 years and my heart is so broken and also he is fighting me for my girls as I make more money- he says he will stay at home forever and he will get the kids and I will pay....ok love shackers what will happen next- how do I protect my daughter? The other day she told her Dad I missed him and he said well you can tell her dont miss her a bit hate her! Ok so my kid now is starting to hate the father she has until recently adored. We have been ordered by the court to go for counseling. I probably would try and make it work cause I see my daughter in so much pain, and I want to fix it but the reality is her Dad is really being an *******. He tells me this is all my fault that I am lazy (I was on bedrest with the new baby) and that he is so happy and in love and that I have to get over it. My other question is Huh? WTF happened?? He did not work that much when we were married as my job makes more- so what happened and what will happen next with him I mean... will he really stay with this girl ps his white trash family is thrilled they think he is going to get big $$$$
liftedcj7on44s Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 I feel for you in this situation. I would document every conversation you have with him. I am going through something similar except I am the husband and the wife is doing the same to me although I dont know if shes seeing someone else. But at an rate, keep your head up, stay strong and go seek legal help ASAP. For someone to be that hateful then its obvious he has better things in his life then you. Its a hard pill to swallow but Would you take him back??
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 he says he will stay at home forever and he will get the kids and I will pay Honestly, I'd find the best ball chomping shark of a lawyer you can and go for blood. Leave him with NOTHING. I would tell your lawyer about what he said and his history of lying and pathological behavior, and that you are afraid he is willing to commit further fraud (like he did with filing a false police report - perhaps your lawyer can petition for a lie detector test in terms of that) and sue for custody under false pretense just so that he can get money. Tell him that you are concerned for the welfare of your children because of the obvious instability and emotional duress that they would be subjected to by living with these two clearly damaged people who obviously do not have anyone's welfare in mind but their own. You can't keep him from seeing the children, but at the very least if your lawyer can prove emotional instability and pathological behavior on one or both of their parts you may be able to swing supervised visitation. There is no way I would let either of these unfit parents and monsters anywhere near my children, and I would make sure I got a lawyer who agreed with me and was able to cut them both down to the size they actually are: ie, small enough to crawl under a rock and stay there.
2.50 a gallon Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 Common tactic for the cheater to blame the cheated. Back up your documenting with recordings, purse, car, where ever you think is best. This is not a fight, this is war, the future of your children is at stake. Kids come first
Author oldladynewbaby Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 Wow you guys are great! Childrens social services has been really involved one from me being charged and 2 because he has 3 friends that were my friends that are now making allegations against me... hilarious they both just had their bank accounts frozen for not paying tax they said they know its me that called and they are going to call and file another allegation against me again today. I try not to react but I did call one of my ex friends and blasted her about letting her kids go over to my ex"s one because my daughter is 9 and he lets her co sleep with older boys and 2 because my daughter desperately wants some aone time with her Dad this is a big adjustment and he is trying so hard to win that discipline and working for rewards are flying out the window I wish I could take him for everything but not only am I fighting for my kids he never worked which means my heartbroken chummies I have to pay!! No only does he **** my friend behind my back I have to give him $$$$ and he does not even pay child support cause he makes cash!! I am an honest faithful person who was blesed late in life with a beautiful baby I count my blessings every day but it is not always easy!!
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