Author Trinitron Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 reservoirdog1, Yeah, this statement got to me: That's bizarre. You pay her bills, it's a "casual relationship" that doesn't involve sex... I wonder if she had a bet with someone, to see how much money she could get out of some poor schmuck, without having to sleep with them.
ann09 Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Wait - why didn't you tell her it's over? Or did you? I'm confused (too early in the morning here). Does she know what you're doing or have you simply disappeared? Honestly, wouldn't she be worried about you?
Author Trinitron Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 ann09, Oh yes I told her its over. I figure if her circumstances are as dire as she's led me to believe she'll definitely be calling. Surprisingly I awoke without any pain from this episode. Any effort from her to "reconcile" anything from this will be completely transparent and she's got to know this, I just hope that she doesn't create a shnitstorm over this where I work. I do feel bad about leaving her hanging, because quite honestly she's screwed without me. Ah well she'll find another sucker. Trinitron
dashing daisy Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Glad you stayed strong and told her it was over. Don't get wrapped up in her games again. If it's hard to ignore her phone calls, maybe you should make a list of all the ways she's used you, the lies and manipulations. It will probably be hard to look at, but maybe it will keep you from getting sucked in again. Anytime you feel apologetic or like you should contact her, or pick up the phone when she calls, make yourself read through the list again. She is a manipulator, she will try to make you feel bad, like you did something wrong, but you didn't! You can do so much better.
Author Trinitron Posted November 29, 2009 Author Posted November 29, 2009 Hey daisy, yeah, not to worried about the calling her thing, because I deleted her numbers, and she sure as hell isn't going to be calling me anytime soon. Now that I've made a concrete decision I'm not really emotional about things anymore, I was able to get closure thru stepping outside my little bubble of wishes and dreams and see reality, see her as she really was and is. Now I'm not gonna lie, it really stings when you are able to open your eyes and see things as they are. I've been down, because, upon further review there were red flags from the begining, I let her play me, I wanted her to play me...........I insisted she play me. Many were the mistakes, that I knew full well I was making. How soft my spine, how small my stones. So many things make sense now. And it really sucks to know I could have done something about it. My breakup and coping doesn't really apply here. 99% of everyone here has had there love reciprocated in some form because they were in a REAL relationship, mine I now know was a farce from the begining, and the fact that she hasn't even attempted to call says to me that it was about the money all along. Trinitron
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