trippi1432 Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 I thought I would make a new thread for these Messages from God application and start posting them here for discussion points. There are some that are really good for looking at things in a different way. Again, not pushing religion, this application is like a daily horoscope kind of thing....today's message: God wants you to know...... ... that a successful relationship requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. Always with the same person, but deeper and deeper every time. Each time on a whole new level you together open in love and discover the truth of your beloved anew. There is no limit to the beauty of your beloved. If you think you've reached the end, stop generalizing. So I look at this one as....Yep, really great advice...shame the STBX didn't know this before he sought out his OW "soul-mate"....or I should say his next "soul-mate". *Shaking head* This actually came up in our marriage counseling during our brief reconcilliation. I've always thought of relationships as taking on new meanings over time...and had hoped that this "bump" in our marriage would have made it stronger. Sometimes you just don't see that train until you're under it. So, I take today's message and apply it to my marriage with a grain of salt. Once your spouse becomes a leaver and/or a cheater, there's nothing to do but generalize it....or just reach an indifference to it.
Author trippi1432 Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 we believe God wants you to know ... that God sees you as you truly are, - a holy child of light: I see you strong and whole. I see you blessed and prospered. I see you courageous and confident. I see you capable and successful. I see you free from all limitations or bondage of any kind. I see you as the spiritually perfect being you truly are.
tojaz Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Can't argue with God Trippi, high time you started seeing yourself in that light. TOJAZ
quankanne Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 a successful relationship requires falling in love many times, always with the same person trippi – if your STBX hasn't figured this out for himself, chances are, he never will *get* it ... and will keep repeating the pattern of straying. Not a pretty picture, is it? meanwhile, because YOU understand the truth of this statement, chances are you're going to be more successful in future love relationships because you'll be able to weed out the fair-weather lovers more easily. Not a pleasant way to learn this lesson, but that doesn't take away the value of it. meanwhile, here's something my best friend and former college roommate would tell me over and over. And over: Don't sell yourself short. Some guy is gonna come along and see that you're star quality, and life will never be the same for either of you. hugs, jo
Author trippi1432 Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 Can't argue with God Trippi, high time you started seeing yourself in that light. TOJAZ So true...and I'm getting there. What did I say before about curve balls? Life keeps throwing them....but I'm getting smarter at ducking them.
Author trippi1432 Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 a successful relationship requires falling in love many times, always with the same person trippi – if your STBX hasn't figured this out for himself, chances are, he never will *get* it ... and will keep repeating the pattern of straying. Not a pretty picture, is it? meanwhile, because YOU understand the truth of this statement, chances are you're going to be more successful in future love relationships because you'll be able to weed out the fair-weather lovers more easily. Not a pleasant way to learn this lesson, but that doesn't take away the value of it. meanwhile, here's something my best friend and former college roommate would tell me over and over. And over: Don't sell yourself short. Some guy is gonna come along and see that you're star quality, and life will never be the same for either of you. hugs, jo Thanks Jo - and I know what you mean about lessons. My STBX has found that the grass isn't greener on the other side - good for him. Problem is, I can't live my life falling in love with the same person over and over when the only time he can remember how much he loved me is when the going gets tough with an OW. Hard lessons on both sides.
Author trippi1432 Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 God wants you to know ... that difficult people are very important, - they teach you tolerance and acceptance. If all was going your way all the time, you would become a spoiled child, wouldn't everyone? Difficult people are just one of the ways God teaches us to expand beyond our egos and accept other perspectives on life. Hmm, tolerance or indifference?
Author trippi1432 Posted November 24, 2009 Author Posted November 24, 2009 (edited) God wants you to know ... that there is no such thing as conditional love. Love is either unconditional or it's no love. You might like someone conditional on their personality or behavior or circumstances. But love accepts no boundaries. So never say 'I love you because', for love has no cause, love comes from God. (changing that) your heart and soul. Interesting message, I think that if everyone loved unconditionally, none of us would be on LS because our spouses would have known that they were loved or would have loved us the same way back. In some cases, it is better to protect your heart and love conditionally or not love at all for those in bad marriages (i.e. - emotional abuse, physical abuse, affairs...etc). I know that I have always loved my children unconditionally, but I ponder where I stopped loving my WAH unconditionally and moved to that conditional love before he became a WAH. My WAH would probably come back today if I called him up, but there would be so many conditions put on loving him again and that's just no way to live and it wouldn't truly be love. Edited November 24, 2009 by trippi1432
JaneDoe35 Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 God wants you to know ... that there is no such thing as conditional love. Love is either unconditional or it's no love. You might like someone conditional on their personality or behavior or circumstances. But love accepts no boundaries. So never say 'I love you because', for love has no cause, love comes from God. (changing that) your heart and soul. Interesting message, I think that if everyone loved unconditionally, none of us would be on LS because our spouses would have known that they were loved or would have loved us the same way back. In some cases, it is better to protect your heart and love conditionally or not love at all for those in bad marriages (i.e. - emotional abuse, physical abuse, affairs...etc). I know that I have always loved my children unconditionally, but I ponder where I stopped loving my WAH unconditionally and moved to that conditional love before he became a WAH. My WAH would probably come back today if I called him up, but there would be so many conditions put on loving him again and that's just no way to live and it wouldn't truly be love. I agree with you, after all this pain I believe that if my husband returned it would be so conditional that it would be a joke. And after having followed your thread I think it may be the same with your husband. Though I guess I can never say never.....
Author trippi1432 Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 God wants you to know ... that today you have a cause for celebration. Today, you should celebrate what an unbelievable life you have had so far: the accomplishments, the many blessings, and, yes, even the hardships because they have served to make you stronger. Just as a gem cannot be polished without friction, nor can a life be perfected without trials. Take a time to acknowledge your life and to praise yourself. Not sure if I can get into this message today.....
Author trippi1432 Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 I agree with you, after all this pain I believe that if my husband returned it would be so conditional that it would be a joke. And after having followed your thread I think it may be the same with your husband. Though I guess I can never say never..... No, I totally agree with you on this Jane....some things just aren't worth going back to. "Conditional love" isn't love at all. I guess it's hard to understand, but worthy of noting too when two people in a relationship that doesn't work well are such better people apart. At least, this is what I am hoping for on his end when it comes to our son.
Author trippi1432 Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 a successful relationship requires falling in love many times, always with the same person trippi – if your STBX hasn't figured this out for himself, chances are, he never will *get* it ... and will keep repeating the pattern of straying. Not a pretty picture, is it? meanwhile, because YOU understand the truth of this statement, chances are you're going to be more successful in future love relationships because you'll be able to weed out the fair-weather lovers more easily. Not a pleasant way to learn this lesson, but that doesn't take away the value of it. meanwhile, here's something my best friend and former college roommate would tell me over and over. And over: Don't sell yourself short. Some guy is gonna come along and see that you're star quality, and life will never be the same for either of you. hugs, jo Thanks jo. Hard lessons to learn about trust tho.....
Author trippi1432 Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 (edited) God wants you to know... ... that your task is not to seek for love, but to seek and melt all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. God loves you with the very air you breath, the very light that touches your skin, the very ground that supports you. Love is everywhere, - melt your barriers, and you will have love in abundance. So, I had to comtemplate this one for a little bit because it's strange that today's message shows up now. Introspection sucks sometimes, but I realized several months ago in MC that I had been putting up barriers for years...with the STBXH, friends....etc. I think that this might be common when in an emotionally abusive relationship, you start to put up a wall to keep from getting your feelings hurt time and time again. I didn't notice it until MC that my STBXH always referred to me by my first name and not by my nickname shortly after we got married....it felt like a detachment to me considering for 12 years he didn't do that. I asked him one day why he did that and he said that is what all of your friends call you so he just followed suit. I think from that point forward I realized that I needed to stop being so guarded with close friends. I also explained that to my STBXH before he left again, but the damage had already been done there, in retrospect on that I think I might be glad I hadn't come to full realization yet with him. Edited November 26, 2009 by trippi1432 Had to think about it a while :o)
Author trippi1432 Posted November 27, 2009 Author Posted November 27, 2009 On this day, God wants you to know... that happiness has nothing to do with pleasure. You feel pleasure when you want something and you get it. Or when you don't want something and you remove it. Pleasure is always relative. Happiness is absolute. Happiness is the understanding and acceptance of life as it is in this very moment as completely perfect. The degree to which you do not accept life in all of the Divine forms is the degree to which you suffer.
Author trippi1432 Posted November 28, 2009 Author Posted November 28, 2009 God wants you to know... that all is well. What could you not accept, if you but knew that everything that happens, all events, past, present, and to come, are gently planned by One Whose only purpose is your good? Interesting...I think I already know what I can't accept (my ex knows that now too).
Author trippi1432 Posted November 29, 2009 Author Posted November 29, 2009 God wants you to know ... that the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang the best. Do not wait; the time will never be 'just right'. Start where you are, work with whatever is at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.
tojaz Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 God wants you to know ... that the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang the best. Do not wait; the time will never be 'just right'. Start where you are, work with whatever is at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along. Good advice to all who are hurting today. Healing dosen't start when you have all the answers, it starts when you admit that you don't need them! TOJAZ
Author trippi1432 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 God wants you to know ... that change is the very nature of life, - welcome it. No glass ever became sand again; No bread ever became wheat; No ripened fruit ever became a flower. Welcome change, and choose what kind of glass you create, what kind of bread you bake, what kind of fruit you harvest.
Author trippi1432 Posted December 2, 2009 Author Posted December 2, 2009 God wants you to know... ... that there is no need to obsess over a decision. God has more in store for us then we can ever predict, and what we fear are bad choices frequently turn out for the best, because our hidden aspirations know better where we are going than our rational minds.
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