HeavenOrHell Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Anyone else who's been dumped get days/weeks where you feel a constant dread/panic feeling in the pit of yours stomach? I've had this for a week now. It's linked to feeling so alone without him and the feeling that I will probably never be with him again.
twinklecat Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 I've had this too, it's awful, but comes and goes. It is getting less and less, but then at times it's back with avengence! I just try to think of positive stuff at the time and it generally helps.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 it's horrible isn't it, make me worry I am so fragile I'll have a breakdown. I've had this too, it's awful, but comes and goes. It is getting less and less, but then at times it's back with avengence! I just try to think of positive stuff at the time and it generally helps.
nobmagnet Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 how long have you been apart? Im on week 9 and still feel ill alot of the time. I dont know when it passes I am afraid but I send you a hug from a fellow sickly worried and scared woman xx
Brightmoon Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Hi HeavenorHell, Twinklecat.... I feel that exact same thing. That panic and loneliness.... its suffocating. I have just come accross this sig on another posters message and it has kind of helped me re focus a bit... "You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life... but it ain't about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winnin' is done! Now if you know what you are worth, go out and get what you are worth; but you gotta be willing to take the hits". Big (((((hugs))))) to you...
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 Thank you He left 4 months ago, after 18 years, not seen him for a month now, I needed some space. ((((hugs)))) back xx how long have you been apart? Im on week 9 and still feel ill alot of the time. I dont know when it passes I am afraid but I send you a hug from a fellow sickly worried and scared woman xx
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 I keep describing it as suffocating too Thanks hun, and ((((hugs)))) back Hi HeavenorHell, Twinklecat.... I feel that exact same thing. That panic and loneliness.... its suffocating. I have just come accross this sig on another posters message and it has kind of helped me re focus a bit... "You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life... but it ain't about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winnin' is done! Now if you know what you are worth, go out and get what you are worth; but you gotta be willing to take the hits". Big (((((hugs))))) to you...
Sbrizio Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Yes... i'm 5 months down the line and i still get these horrible moments. I usually call a friend, or i take a long walk, or if anything else is impossible, i find a quiet place and i try to breath and to calm down. The feeling is horrible, as if a menace for my future happiness was in front of me, and i had the impelling urge to act immediately to stop it. I don't know for you, but i noticed it comes when i'm tired, or stressed, or due to a combination of stressful factors... BTW i feel like this today.. it's the first quiet day after a busy week, it's the WE, i'm alone at home, my closest friends are away, and tomorrow it's my birthday..enough to trigger all sort of crazy emotions
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 I've had it permanently for the last week, it's there no matter what I do, and it's there at night and I can't call a friend or anything then He left me 4 months ago after 18 years. I feel more depressed at weekends. I hope your birthday will be ok. Yes... i'm 5 months down the line and i still get these horrible moments. I usually call a friend, or i take a long walk, or if anything else is impossible, i find a quiet place and i try to breath and to calm down. The feeling is horrible, as if a menace for my future happiness was in front of me, and i had the impelling urge to act immediately to stop it. I don't know for you, but i noticed it comes when i'm tired, or stressed, or due to a combination of stressful factors... BTW i feel like this today.. it's the first quiet day after a busy week, it's the WE, i'm alone at home, my closest friends are away, and tomorrow it's my birthday..enough to trigger all sort of crazy emotions
mickleb Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 HoH Hideous as this feeling is, I think it is a sign of progress for you. For so long, you have been arrested in 'hope'. This stage (albeit one that is perfectly understandable, especially at the end of an 18 year old relationship) is what holds us back from the real healing, the moving on. Moving on is terrifying for you, at the moment, incomprehensible. This sensation reflects that. But your acknowledgement of it being over is MASSIVE and your body is just responding to that shock. You will realise that, despite the horrible grip this has on you, at present, that you will survive this, too. This strength will really facilitate your ability to move forward, towards a wonderful future, as an incredible, brave, strong AND sensitive woman. I wish that you see that future soon. x
McGrupp Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 im feeling the same way. maybe it is hope leaving...
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 Thanks hun, I think you are probably right. HoH Hideous as this feeling is, I think it is a sign of progress for you. For so long, you have been arrested in 'hope'. This stage (albeit one that is perfectly understandable, especially at the end of an 18 year old relationship) is what holds us back from the real healing, the moving on. Moving on is terrifying for you, at the moment, incomprehensible. This sensation reflects that. But your acknowledgement of it being over is MASSIVE and your body is just responding to that shock. You will realise that, despite the horrible grip this has on you, at present, that you will survive this, too. This strength will really facilitate your ability to move forward, towards a wonderful future, as an incredible, brave, strong AND sensitive woman. I wish that you see that future soon. x
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 I think it might be, although I have a little hope left still, but that will probably go when I see him tonight (not seen him for a month). im feeling the same way. maybe it is hope leaving...
Recommended Posts