mike5770 Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Havent talked to her since august. Drank too much and decided to text her..nothing..tried to call her...nothing...mean texted her...nothing! I am such a moron! Been feeling sorry for myself all night instead of talking to other women! God I hate her for doing this to me! What the hell was wrong with me...nice, generous, didn't cheat on her like her previous b friend, and I get tossed aside like trash! Has to always be difficult! I am so mad at myself!!!
fofiffs Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Alcohol does that to you. I've done it when my ex left me 9 months ago. You know what I did, I stopped drinking. Its save you the heartache and most importantly it saves you MONEY!!! you'll get through it bro. Just drink mildly next time. Alcohol will just make you relapse and make the depression kick in more.
adamt Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 (edited) stop drinking and find something else to occupy your mind. do something like join a gym or try new hobbies/sports. meet new people. and oh, delete her number from your phone ASAP Edited November 21, 2009 by adamt
rp123 Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 I've been so close to doing this myself. Sorry to hear it.... Have you been strictly NC since Aug, or has there been any other relapses? At least her silence lets you know how she's feeling.
GrayClouds Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Don't be too hard on yourself, it happens. I suggest beating yourself up for another 5 minutes and then stop take a deep breath and learn from it. We all have our "slap the head and kick yourself in the A$$" movement. Be glad you had yours and now that you did you can move on to the next stage. Hang in there.
nobmagnet Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 hey in moments of weakness we have all done similar things! Dont beat yourself up over it its perfectly normal. When you are feeling low we crave the companionship and memory of what we have lost but sometimes its just a warped veiw of how good it was. Next time you feel like this try to tell your self this " we broke up for a reason I am going to find someone and something much better soon I didnt deserve to be treated so very badly as I am a nice bloke"
Author mike5770 Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 Thanks everyone I needed that pick me up. I feel better today and I really haven't been drunk in 2 months. I think my tolerance got lower or something. Funny thing is after I wrote that last night a new girl called me was like a shot of adrenaline. Like everyone on here who was dumped I still don't understand it great memories and felt like good times to being treated like I killed someone in her family! She should go to Hollywood usually I can sense when I am about to get the guillotine! Yes alcohol moderation from now on. I actually thought I was over her and then it is like a horror flick she rears her ugly head at the worst time!
Author mike5770 Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 The sad thing is I deleted her from my phone in August but unfortunately I cannot delete her number from my head!! Is there a shrink that could make me forget her I will pay him double!
WTRanger Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 Havent talked to her since august. Drank too much and decided to text her..nothing..tried to call her...nothing...mean texted her...nothing! I am such a moron! Been feeling sorry for myself all night instead of talking to other women! God I hate her for doing this to me! What the hell was wrong with me...nice, generous, didn't cheat on her like her previous b friend, and I get tossed aside like trash! Has to always be difficult! I am so mad at myself!!! See the bold quote. First step to moving on is to stop playing the victim. Stop seeing yourself as a victim of the evil female tyranny that she supposedly put upon you. You are not responsible for her actions. You are only responsible for your actions. Plainly put, sh*t happens and there isn't a damn thing you can do. She didn't make you get drunk, she didn't make you text, call, text her. You did. You allowed yourself to do it. That being said, we all make mistakes. As others have said, just learn from it. Since her number is not in your phone, you must manually type it in. That should be enough of a warning for your mind to say, "STOP! WHAT AM I DOING!?!?!?!" Next time you punch the first few digits in, think about how you are feeling right now. Ask your self if you want to feel like this again. You are allowing yourself to remember her number. Stop thinking about it so much. Just stop! Again, this all comes down to your own self control. Just be smarter than your brain.
Author mike5770 Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 Great point..And you are right I shouldn't hate her I just disagreed with her decision. I was just angry when I wrote that.
nobleguy Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Great point..And you are right I shouldn't hate her I just disagreed with her decision. I was just angry when I wrote that. If it makes you feel better or stops you contacting her, then hate her. Just don't let it consume you or make you bitter towards others. I've found that I can focus my dislike/hate on my ex while still being warm to people that haven't treated me badly. Oh, and sorry about memorising the number That's hard on you... I never took a mental note of my ex's number and then deliberately never tried to remember it after we split. So a delete of all messages and her contact record before I go out (I have to have contact due to kids) is a routine for me now hey in moments of weakness we have all done similar things! Dont beat yourself up over it its perfectly normal. When you are feeling low we crave the companionship and memory of what we have lost but sometimes its just a warped veiw of how good it was. Next time you feel like this try to tell your self this " we broke up for a reason I am going to find someone and something much better soon I didnt deserve to be treated so very badly as I am a nice bloke" Take the advice above. Very wise words indeed. The day I actually really believed the last paragraph was the day I stopped feeling quite so bad about everything.
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