puppydog Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 After almost 4 years together, my ex and I broke up. I'm sad about that obviously. I was going through a period of confusion and needed some time apart. I asked for a break. He took it as a breakup, and as miscommunication took its toll, it turned into a flat-out breakup. I wanted back in, in the end he refused. I asked...no I begged 2 times. I'm in NC right now trying to heal and become whole again. I was with him the entire 3 years of law school and his bar exam. Today, the bar exam results came out and I don't get a call. After we broke up in one of out conversations, he promised he would call me the day he found out he passed. I got really sad today because he didn't call. I broke down and cried in the car. How did he stop caring and cut me out of his life that quickly? We only broke up in October. It's been barely a month. A couple weeks ago at a house warming party I had a little too much wine to drink so I fell asleep on my friend's bed. Everyone left eventually and one of my girl friends ended up waking me up. The ex was halfway to his car already by the time I came out of the apt. That was only 2 weeks after he broke up with me. Can guys really shut down their emotions to stop caring this quickly? Or has he really stopped caring? Despite the 4 years we were together, I never knew him to be like this. Never. Ever. I'm in saddened shock right now. More heartbroken. I can't believe I was actually going to consider asking for a second chance after a couple months. I don't think I have any chance anymore.
USMCHokie Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 I was going through a period of confusion and needed some time apart. I asked for a break. My ex's mom told me after I had broken up with my ex...don't EVER mention breaks or breakups unless you are fully prepared to lose your ex forever... If I was on the receiving end of those words, which I was, I'd end it because we guys take that as you "letting us down gently"...and it hurts... How did he stop caring and cut me out of his life that quickly? We only broke up in October. It's been barely a month. You are on the receiving end of some can of NC...I doubt he's completely stopped caring...but NC is meant to heal and move on, which it looks like he's trying to do...believe me, he's probably hurting... Can guys really shut down their emotions to stop caring this quickly? Or has he really stopped caring? Despite the 4 years we were together, I never knew him to be like this. Never. Ever. I'm in saddened shock right now. More heartbroken. He is trying to move on after you played the "I need a break" card...NC sucks when you're on the receiving end... Since you wanted the break, I'd say use this time to take the break...after things have sort of settled down, figure out what you really want...
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