hollywoodboys Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 I'm a high school senior still loving my ex. My girlfriend of about a month (officially, probably more like 2 months for real) just broke up sunday morning with me. It was completely out of nowhere as I had spent the whole weekend with her, and I was leaving her house to go back to LA (she lives 2 hours away, but we'd see each other most weekends, as she has family in LA, or I'd go to her house). Anyways after a wonderful weekend, where nothing bad happened, and I was being myself she says, "Can we talk in my room"... i sorta smelt something bad... then she goes "the last month has been amazing, BUT i need to focus on school and get my grades up." wow, my heart sunk that moment, and the drive home was brutally lonely. i mean i know it wasn't the grades, but man i was upset. We basically avoided each other, until she texted hi a few times to me, which i ignored at first. One night when i was finding it difficult to cope, i just texted "i want to talk with you" to her, and i guess she was going through a lot (she is an overachiever, as am I but she's got issues) but she said she couldn't talk and had to work. now we're like sort of talking in an awkward friend way, but she said she's sorry she avoided me cause she's had a real rough week, which i do understand. Where do i go from here? I actually want her back. There's another girl who wants me, who's cute, but she doesn't have the same charm of my ex. How do I go about this and get her back? do i find out why she broke up with me for real? i could use some advice.
melja Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Hi, I am a girl and just did the same thing to my guy. I really like him, but found him to be a distraction and since we hadn't made it clear we were officially together, found I was unable to focus on other things. What you need to do is talk to her, tell her you support everything she is trying to acheive, but feel that you can make a relationship work. Ask her the amount of contact that would allow her to meet her other obligations. Maybe spend one day together per week, and have a ten minute phone call per day. Then don't pressure her for more time. She is just feeling pulled by her multiple obligations. She needs to know you like her enough to work around this rather than taking up all of her time (which is selfish). If you really care for her, you will be willing to work with her rather than pressure her.
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