bella102571 Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 I need some advice---I feel like i make the same mistakes over again. I recently started dating a guy about 2 months ago. He is 36 and I am 38---he has never been married and I think may have some committment issues. He is pilot for the airforce and is finally in the reserves--but still travels a lot. I have had alot going on in the past year--I moved away for a new job--got layed off--and now am in a job I am not crazy about...but am saying this to preface what happened. We have spent alot of time together since we met---I even took him home to meet my family and friends on my birthday---which was kinda his idea. That was about a month ago. I have been stressed latley and maybe a bit needy---and slowly started feeling him pulling away for the last few weeks. He went away on a trip about a week ago---and i was being needy---texting him and emailing him---not saying I miss you or anything--but just how are you doing---etc. He did not respond the whole trip--which was about 5 days. He got back this week and emailed me that he has been feeling down and not feeling good and also been rethinking our relationship and he does not know. I left him alone for a few days---and sent him an email to apologize for my stress and said hopefully we can put this all behind us and try again. He responded that he did not know and that he was taking another work trip and leaving today actually. I then decided to go see him last night and talk---he seemed depressed and wanted to reach out to him too. We talked and he told me he needed space and wanted to take a step back. That he did not know if we were a match---and did not know what he wanted to do. I acted very calm and said i understood---and I hope we can try and work on things again. He left today until monday---and I asked him about getting together and he said we will see...but he was leaving again for a trip to afghnistan on friday so he did not know. I did not get upset---and have not called or texted him since I left him last night. I know I pushed him away with my neediness---because he ws always calling me and texting me and wanted to see me in the beginnning. I feel like I am still playing these games---at my age. But--I seem to push them away---he even said I was pushing too much and he wanted to take thinks naturally last night. What do i do--have i screwed it all up? I dont know what he is thinking or what I need to do at this point? I am pretty upset---thought we had a connection.
RobM Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 At this point it sounds over unless he changes his mind, if I were you I wouldn't do anything, don't email or text him. If he's still interested he'll contact you somehow, but honestly it sounds over.
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