sean1970 Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Think this is ok to post in Coping... The book, 'No More Mr. Nice Guy', just arrived today. I have to say it is brutal how much I'm reading about myself. Particularly painful, the chapter: Make Your Needs A Priority Just painfully sobering how much we sometime sabotage ourselves in relationships... Or, for that matter, find ourselves in relationships we should not be in to begin with... Anyone else read it?
Template Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 (edited) Welcome to the club, as you'll find a lot of us here have read this book, and learned a LOT about ourselves from it. Good luck... you are on the right path to discovering your true self. Edited November 20, 2009 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author sean1970 Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 (edited) Welcome to the club, as you'll find a lot of us here have read this book, and learned a LOT about ourselves from it. Good luck... you are on the right path to discovering your true self. Thanks Temp... Reading it, I'm going from "Mother Fu$%ing" myself to, "Ah haaa" ... Just an odd experience and I can see that reading it is not enough; this needs to be exercised like anything else you want to see develop. Edited November 20, 2009 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
TheLoneSock Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Think this is ok to post in Coping... The book, 'No More Mr. Nice Guy', just arrived today. I have to say it is brutal how much I'm reading about myself. Particularly painful, the chapter: Make Your Needs A Priority Just painfully sobering how much we sometime sabotage ourselves in relationships... Or, for that matter, find ourselves in relationships we should not be in to begin with... Anyone else read it? I read it for a political science class in school actually. Good read. It talks quite a bit about women's feminism and the feminization of men in recent years, which was a subject we were debating at the time. The rest of the book outside that subject has pretty valuable material too. I recommend it to all guys, no matter how they view themselves. Hell, even women.
carhill Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Prior to MC, I would've scored pretty high (on Dr. Glover's test). Ironically, scoring lower impelled my stbx to file for divorce. The gravy train was over.
GrayClouds Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Do remember, books like this (specially in the neck deep in the throws of break-up BS) can be like reading the horoscope. You can see way to much of yourself in the words. Not to say there is not some good stuff in it, but put it in perspective. Be kind to yourself member some of your behaviors are legitimate reactions to others behavior: for example if someone is pulling away it is we all become needier. And many of the traits he talks about are good traits if not overused or practice in every situation. Just as a hammer is a great tool but not always useful for tightening a bolt.
Author sean1970 Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 Do remember, books like this (specially in the neck deep in the throws of break-up BS) can be like reading the horoscope. You can see way to much of yourself in the words. Not to say there is not some good stuff in it, but put it in perspective. Be kind to yourself member some of your behaviors are legitimate reactions to others behavior: for example if someone is pulling away it is we all become needier. And many of the traits he talks about are good traits if not overused or practice in every situation. Just as a hammer is a great tool but not always useful for tightening a bolt. "Mama always had a way of explaining things so I could understand them." Forrest Gump... Yeah, while this will be applied for future relationships, it was hard turning each page reading all the mistakes I made... Thanks Gray...
GrayClouds Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 "Mama always had a way of explaining things so I could understand them." Forrest Gump... So are you calling me an old lady??????? If so I would be a MILF-BIWSIAG (Mother I would love to F#ck -But I wouldn't because she's a guy)
TheLoneSock Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 "Mama always had a way of explaining things so I could understand them." Forrest Gump... Yeah, while this will be applied for future relationships, it was hard turning each page reading all the mistakes I made... Thanks Gray... Don't look at it as in all the mistakes you made in the past. Look at it as in all the mistakes you will not have to make in the future - they are lessons learned, done, completed. Everyone goes through them, girls and guys.
Tony T Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Don't look at it as in all the mistakes you made in the past. Look at it as in all the mistakes you will not have to make in the future - they are lessons learned, done, completed. Everyone goes through them, girls and guys. Mistakes are what you're makin' when you ain't doin' things right!
Dream Brother Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Do remember, books like this (specially in the neck deep in the throws of break-up BS) can be like reading the horoscope. You can see way to much of yourself in the words. Very good point.
Devil Inside Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Taking Gray's take into account...it is a very good read, and there are some sound principles in there. I have really gained a lot from Dr G's principles.
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